How many is too many?

[skygazer]

Poll question: How many is too many?

Sexual partners, I mean. (whoops) For a woman. Prior to "settling down". I'm curious now. Apparently, there's some kind of limit that I wasn't aware of.

[Goldmund]

1. Why is it any different for a woman from what it would be for a man?

And I don't think there is such a thing as "too many".

[skygazer]

4. See this thread

http://www.democraticunderground.com/discuss/duboard.php?az=view_all&address=105x3094773

[Goldmund]

8. Whoa

I'm stayin' out of this one. Had enough discussion about bigotry for the day.

:)

[ohiosmith]

2. More than 6 or 7 a night and I'm exhausted.

[skygazer]

6. Wiseass!

Edited accordingly.

[imenja]

9. All you need is a good sports drink to keep up the electrolytes

:spray:

[ohiosmith]

13. Sorry, I thought the subject was martinis.

[skygazer]

15. A martini is sounding very good

I'll buy. :beer:

[ohiosmith]

16. Grey Goose w/olives please. Thank you.

[ewagner]

3. No rules, no limits n/t

[ltfranklin]

5. Too many what?

Godivas? 10
Cats? 8
Commemorative Plates? 8 (15 if they're Elvis)

Be a bit more specific.

[MADem]

7. Are you talking prunes? (Are 3 enough? Are 6 too many?)

Or partners?

Why do people need to know? I guess it has something to do with the habit nowadays of getting busy before you know your partner's mother's maiden name....courtship is a lost art.

[imenja]

10. Why keep count?

Who cares? If you've tested clean it's no one's business but your own.

[Bok_Tukalo]

11. Who asks that question?

I have never asked a person I had a relationship with how many people they had sex with before meeting me. How rude.

[skygazer]

14. Evidently a lot of people do

And evidently there's a "correct" answer though I've yet to learn what that answer is. I'm frankly stunned and amazed that there are so many people who still believe that if a woman has had multiple sexual partners, she must be disturbed or depressed or prone to cheat once she is in a relationship. Damaged good, ya know?

Why is it so hard to accept that some women, like some men, enjoy sex and have several casual flings before they are ready to settle down with someone?

[Bok_Tukalo]

20. To each their own, I suppose

I never really developed much of a hang up about sex.

I'ld probably be more concerned if the person I was interested in flitted into and out of relationships at the drop of a hat.

[expatriot]

12. Well I should say zero just because any woman who has had any body else

wouldn't stick around to keep getting what I'm givin' I mean I need 'em as naive as to the what the world has to offer as possible. I need to be able to give them a McDonald's hamburger and tell her "Girl, you just got yourself a PORTERHOUSE steak" and for her to BELIEVE it.

[purr]

17. Thats a good one

:rofl:

[ohiosmith]

18. hahahhaha

:rofl:

[Hugin]

19. Just one...

The one who's name gets moaned out whilst lovemaking... and
it isn't my name.

[skygazer]

22. See, that's why I call them all "baby"

:evilgrin:

[Hugin]

28. Or you could hang with people who all had the same name...

... could be confusing tho.

Jim... Meet James... Jim... Jim... James... Hey, Jimmy.

[Bossy Monkey]

21. What in the name of fuck makes that anyone's business but the people

concerned? (Not an attack on you, but the kind of people who actually would push such an agenda. James Dobson, I'm looking at you.)

[Lisa0825]

23. Depends on how long I live;-)

And how long I remain single.

[skygazer]

25. Exactly

Single ten years, average of three guys a year - that's 30 guys!!!! Even with only one guy a year, that's still ten guys.

Yet some people refer to this as "sleeping with anything that moves." :wtf:

[4_Legs_Good]

24. I, quite frankly, don't care anymore

At one time I would have, but not anymore.

If it means she's committed and then left them because the spark went out or something, then maybe I'd think that I had no chance of keeping her "for myself" i.e. in a committed relationship, but as far as number? I don't care.

And, I gotta ask, why the f*ck is this kinda question always limited to women? That's f*cking rediculous!!! No offense skygazer at all, it's not your question, but the trend of these questions being asked, and I know your question is based on another poll.

david

[last_texas_dem]

26. I don't think

men should hold it against women for having many sexual partners, as long as women don't hold it against men for having few.

(Not speaking from personal experience or anything. OK, maybe I am. :-))

[johnnie]

27. It's up to each person

I know that if I am going to change my life and make a decision to be with someone, possibly forever, I would like to know what type of person I am getting close to.
I could give a shit what someone did before they met me, but I think that by going in to a relationship blindly is foolish and not very smart. it also depends on what kind of person you yourself are. If I choose to be more liberal, I think it would be foolish to try to start a relationship with someone who is conservative and a die-hard Republican. If I want to know my possible partner's education, I am entitled to ask. If I want to know if the person was married before and would I be dealing with an ex-husband and possibly children, I feel it is my right to ask. I'm not saying that those things are wrong and I wouldn't consider starting a relationship, I personally think it is wrong to put yourself in a situation that might get you to a point when it is too late to dissolve the relationship easily.
As for how many partners and their sexual past, I think it is important and smart to know these things. That's just me though, and I have no problem if people think that not knowing a person that they might possibly marry. I have a lot of friends who are paying a lot of money to ex spouses because they didn't care what the person was like.

[CornField]

29. I think I'd fall under the "whore of Babylon" option & I didn't see it

Honestly... there's a limit? Someone should have passed me a manual or at least a course summary.

:rofl:

[Guy Fawkes]

30. I think that's really up to that woman...

You're own morals and values should dictate what you do (within the law) not the morals or values of random strangers.