Hey, did you know, I'm dead?!

[SarahB]

My soon-to-be ex-husband put himself up on a particular internet dating site (fine with me, I don't care, I hope he finds happiness as my emotions moved on a long time ago), but he listed himself as widowed. So, if he actually hits it off with someone, how does he explain the lady who picks up the kids they call "mommy"?

:wtf:

[YellowRubberDuckie]

1. Sarah, watch yourself...

Usually ya hear about men doing then then killing their wives. Be careful.
Also a question: Does he have a history of mental problems? Compulsive lying perhaps?
Duckie

[SarahB]

5. No.

He's never been violent or anything- just an ass.

[flordehinojos]

26. still and all -- watch yourself.

[Cooley Hurd]

2. Wow... that's a mighty creepy thing to do...

So, you have internet access at the cemetery?;)

Seriously, he should be ashamed of himself, and it sounds like you made the right decision...:thumbsup:

[ET Awful]

3. Hmmmm.

"The kids are just confused, that's my deceased wife's sister, they were twins. We just never had the heart to tell the kids the truth."

:evilgrin:

There's just something decidedly weird about that.

[LostinVA]

4. You may be able to report him

Some Internet dating sites are very strict about people not misrepresenting themselves. If you want to go there...

If he's this creepy, you made the right choice for divorce.

[babylonsister]

6. Just a lovely way to start a new relationship, with

a lie.:eyes: Seems like you're better off!

[Jilly Beans]

37. Exactly what I thought. This guy has no hope of a fulfilling relationship

in his future as long as he plays games like this with women. What a scoundrel.

[trotsky]

7. Nothin' like playing the sympathy card to get dates...

What a loser!

[NewJeffCT]

27. I agree, what a loser

From my experience, and from a few other guys I've known, the time after your divorce is usually a great time to meet women. Not entirely sure why, but I went from a quiet, shy guy that all the women said was "too nice" prior to my first marriage to a guy that was dating several women a week, sometimes more than 1 per day within a very short time of my ex filing for divorce.

So, I guess he didn't get the memo, or has some mental problems? Maybe he can't admit he failed at marriage?

[Nicholas D Wolfwood]

8. What an ass.

I'm sorry you wound up with a total jerk. :hug:

[Crankie Avalon]

9. Ouch...maybe he just made a mistake and hasn't noticed to correct it, yet.

Otherwise, maybe he's trying to frame himself as a loving widower to get a little sympathy. :(

[short bus president]

10. Sweetie, if you'll just

put down the fish and wash yer hands, you won't smell like that anymore!

:P

:hi:

[Squeech]

11. Awesome

So what's it like in the afterlife? Met any angels yet?

[ScreamingMeemie]

12. His name isn't Scott, is it? Please be careful Sarah. It sounds as if

your soon to be ex has some major issues. Even those who have never been prone to violent tendencies can snap. I worry about you. :hug:

[SarahB]

21. I do too.

He's going to be gone from Wednesday to Saturday on business and I'm not too close to my dad, but I'm going to have him over to give him a heads up on some stuff and I know he'll watch out for me. There's never been any threats, just certain continual controlling behaviors that are irrational.

[Redstone]

13. Don't let him know that you know. Trust me on this.

You always have to have something they don't know you have.

Redstone

[SarahB]

19. Yeah, but I'm letting other people know.

My dad, a few friends, You guys, etc. It does make me a little nervous in all honesty. Let's see, how much more crap can one person go through?

[Prisoner_Number_Six]

14. You should respond as a recent widower.

Really freak him out when (I mean IF) he found out... :evilgrin:

[MissB]

15. Wow.

Glad to hear he is your soon-to-be ex. What a bastard.

[Zomby Woof]

16. What a fucktwit

A soulless pusbag. It doesn't seem sufficient to say you are rid of him.

:hug:

[SarahB]

20. I found a great place, but it's not official yet.

If all works out as planned, less than two weeks. It wasn't like this until after we had kids and I was too naive to miss all the red flags for the first few years (of course, he liked it that way). :(

[MissMillie]

17. You look damn good for a corpse.

Nothing like a relationship that starts off w/ a lie, eh?

[Jack Rabbit]

18. I suppose he could have made a mistake

It's not difficult to select the wrong radio button and not notice until later.

Or, as someone else suggested, he may just be a creep looking for sympathy.

However, you should be careful. Perhaps you should contact someone at a women's shelter or a hotline for advice.

[Technowitch]

22. Sounds like you have the bases covered, hon.

I do hope you have a good attorney, though.

And yes, do be careful.

*hugs*

[Wapsie B]

23. OMG

This is not the rambling of a sane individual.

[_TJ_]

24. Maybe he thinks widowed has more positive connotations

than divorced. Or maybe he's just a muppet. :D

[curse10]

25. Jesus Fucking H. Christ.

I'm so glad you were strong enough to kick this guy to the curb. You can do so much better :hug:

[Debi]

28. Good luck to you

It may just be that it's easier to say "she's dead" than to say "she left me" but still....what a creep!

[Floogeldy]

29. I guess it is good you are rid of the LIAR

[DelawareValleyDem]

30. Didn't know that. You work a computer keyboard well for a dead person

[LynzM]

31. Wow, dude.

That's a whole new level of 'asshole'. Be careful and take care of yourself. I'll be very glad for you when you're out of that house.

[Lone_Star_Dem]

32. That is disturbing.

You sound like you're covering your bases, just in case, which is the right thing to do. Even still, what a weirdo he must be. Even if he's just looking for some action people don't like being lied to like that. I bet he's the kind who will try and cover the lie in a cloak of, well, she's dead to me, BS when he gets caught.

People like him should have to wear a relationship warning label on their foreheads. I pity the poor women who answer him thinking he's sincere.

[liberalitch]

33. I'm really sorry to hear that....

what killed you?

Does your family desire flowers or is there a charity.....

[LibraLiz1973]

34. there are dozens of things I could say about this

asshole
liar
scum
scoundrel
dick

etc.

But in the end it just really creeps me out. I'm new here and I don't know you yet, but please take care of yourself. Anyone who would do that has serious issues.

[Jilly Beans]

35. Ooooo. Sounds like Scott Petersen's MO.

Your husband's an asshole. Your load will be so much lighter when he's no longer your husband.

:hug:

[WinterStorm]

36. Do you have any idea what his password might be?

If you do, I would change a few things including his password. Part of his description would be the way that he has treated you in the past. You could put down that his nickname is asshole or sob.

The best part is if he claims that you are deceased then she will dump him when she finds out that he lied.

[SarahB]

38. Update...

It was just an "accident" and of course I'm a horrible person of course for even having any fears. :sarcasm:

I don't know what I have done in my life to deserve to be treated in some of the ways I've been treated (not just by him either). I don't think anything. The fact of the matter is it's just the way it seems to be for me and I'm tired. It's like I was given so many good things within myself and I know that, but I always have to be the rock, the person who has to be understanding of everyone else.

Anyway, I just need to strengthen that inner wall, suck it up, and go into cold-hearted bitch mode. I don't much like that and it doesn't feel like who I am, but unfortunately, the rest of humanity hasn't left me with much choice.

[-..__...]

39. Post a link to the personal...

maybe it deserves some response?

:evilgrin:

[SarahB]

40. I don't care about him enough to even mess with him.

I just want to move on.

[SheWhoMustBeObeyed]

41. I am so sorry you have to go through it

I'm reading your thread for the first time and find the situation very alarming. What a weasel. I'm sending you my best wishes and telepathing you my reserve of cold-hearted bitch mode.

BTW, CHB mode is very useful. And it's like a muscle, you have to exercise it. It doesn't have to be who you are all the time for it to help you when you need it.