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CatWoman Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Oct-16-03 09:00 PM
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You ever separate "loving someone" from "being in love with someone"?
hmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm........................
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TopesJunkie Donating Member (979 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Oct-16-03 09:01 PM
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1. No.
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CatWoman Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Oct-16-03 09:04 PM
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5. It's done all the time, hon
I read this story today, that just broke my heart -- http://www.ajc.com/metro/content/metro/atlanta/1003/16s...

He loved her -- but he wasn't "in love" with her.

If he were in love with her, he wouldn't have killed her.
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FlashHarry Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Oct-16-03 09:02 PM
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2. Yes.
At the moment, actually.
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LuLu550 Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Oct-16-03 09:03 PM
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3. I deeply love
my children, but I am not "in love with" them. I think "in love with" should imply an adult-adult relationship (or teen-teen), whereas "loving" can include love of children, parents, siblings, etc.
That's just my take on it.
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mbartko Donating Member (199 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Oct-16-03 09:30 PM
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16. I agree
"In love with" indicates romance. Technically, "in love WITH" kind of implies requited love.
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underpants Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Oct-16-03 09:04 PM
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4. It involves the upper back of the leg and the upper breast area...



near the chin but below the collarbone. Oh and the lower middle back on the side and the index finger.

Sleep well.





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CatWoman Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Oct-16-03 09:05 PM
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6. I'm going to start calling you "Randy"
:hi:

:loveya:
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SOteric Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Oct-16-03 09:09 PM
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9. 'Randy,'
That's his maiden-name. ;-)
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underpants Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Oct-16-03 09:13 PM
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11. Rhhhhhhaaaaaaaaaandeeeeeee!
:bounce:
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SOteric Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Oct-16-03 09:08 PM
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7. Yes,
I love my brothers, I love my mentor at school, I love one of the priests at church, I love several of my long-time girlfriends and I love a host of people whose spirits inspire me and who's charm is not wasted on me.

But that's not the same to me as being 'in love,' which is a deeper, more romantic declaration. I will say, however, that I don't get to 'being in love' without going through 'loving someone' first. Some people do and can, I've never been able to.

Lucky for me, I rather often grow to love and admire people.
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Terwilliger Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Oct-16-03 09:09 PM
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8. most times...
but then I think about what's good for me :loveya:
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leftist_rebel1569 Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Oct-16-03 09:12 PM
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10. YES
That's goin on for me right now, too...
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greatauntoftriplets Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Oct-16-03 09:16 PM
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12. Yes,
although one goes with the other, in many ways.
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supernova Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Oct-16-03 09:20 PM
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13. Yes with overlaps
You can love a person without being in love with them. Familial relationships for starters, close friendships for another.

However, being "in love" with someone pretty much neccessitates loving them as well.
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PinkTiger Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Oct-16-03 09:22 PM
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14. Here's the difference:
Being "in love" is temporary insanity.
Loving something is having genuine, heartfelt, unselfish regard for it or them.
For example, I love myself, I love my job, I love my husband and my children.
I'm "in love" with chocolate.
And when I was dating my husband, I was "in love" with him and would have blindly followed him to the ends of the Earth.
Today, after 26 years, I love him. I would probably accompany him to the ends of the Earth because I would worry about him, otherwise.
But I'd be bitching my head off all the way.

That's the difference.
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populistmom Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Oct-16-03 09:25 PM
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15. I love lots of people
Family, especially my children, certain old friends, but the term "in love" connotates romantic love I think.

Sarah
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DarkPhenyx Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Oct-16-03 09:32 PM
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17. Yup.
Most of the time actually.

I'm one of those folks that think there is a difference, but aht our language falls woefully short in being able to explain it.
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gate of the sun Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Oct-16-03 11:13 PM
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18. well I love my mother (at least some of the time)
but I am never "in love with her".
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