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I am unusually good at making things. (Sorry if that seems like bragging.) I enjoy it so much that I started making things for my brothers at every opportunity. They love me and would kill or be killed for me (only girl in the family), but I was driving them nuts. I didn't realize it, because the stuff I was giving them was high-quality, one-of-a-kind stuff that I spent a LOT of time on. They understood that I put so much effort into the things I made them *because* I love them. It wasn't that they wanted different gifts -- we are a quality-time and hugs family, not an expensive-gifts family -- but it just got to be too much, and it was driving them nuts.
The brother I am closest to solved this after the others griped to him one too many times. He was unwilling to risk hurting my feelings, so he started giving me hints about specific things that they would really like that I could make for them. For example, brother #4 is a Georgia Bulldogs fan. He suggested I make brother #4 something useful with the GA Bulldogs mascot and logo on it. I made him a clock. (Paint it on a salad plate piece of bisque, fire it, use a ceramic bit to put a small hole in the center, and add a clock kit. Voila!) He suggested I make brother #1 something with his company's logo on it. I painted it on two matching mugs. Brother #5 is an animal lover, and I made new food dishes for his pets. Suddenly they were getting things they really liked that still let me spend lots of time and energy, which is important to me as a way of expressing my love.
After about a year of this, brother #2 fessed up that he had been giving me the hints on purpose because I had been driving them all nuts. I gave them all blanket permission to dispose of previous gifts as they saw fit, and we all got a good laugh out of it. :D
So I suggest that you think of something you'd really like and drop a hint. Maybe you'd like a rainbow-flag clock or a hers-and-his or his-and-his set of coffee mugs or something. You know what kind of crafts she's good at. There has to be something you're passionate about that you'd actually like that she could make for you. (My best friend got a Kerry-Edwards cup-thing to put his pens and pencils in on his writing desk.)
I'm sorry this was so long; I just wanted to tell my story in full in case it could help. Best of luck!
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