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I highly recomend the book "Class" by Paul Fussel, its hilarious and right on in its observations, though he is somewhat class bound to his own class, the academics; he gets parochial there. Combine it with The Preppy Handbook, which is also very very accurate.
Most of what you describe is the result of insecurity, as much as snobbery. And insecurity is itself a trait of the middle class, they fear losing status.
All is not what it seems in these class traits. For example, true wasp bluebloods tend to be very cheap; they avoid labels and name brands in many cases. You can know them by what they stock in their bar, box wine, big 1.75 liter plastic bottles of second tier gin and scotch, store brand tonic water. They often drive very old station wagons and suburbans. They wear their khakies and button downs until they are falling apart. The whole point of the prep "style," in fact, is that it is not a style, it never changes, so you can wear the same clothing forever.
Classist? whats that? Class consciousness is the first step in liberation; are you calling people who "beleive" in social classes classist, or people who desire and approve of social classes classist? Or are people who display the traits of their received class classist? Social class exists, so I don't see any need to label people who "beleive" in social classes. I personally don't feel its a meaningful thing to approve or disapprove of social classes, they are an attibrute of humanity as much as arms or legs; if you were able to abolish the existing 'social order" as its sometimes called, a new one would spring up in its place.
Ironically those who loftily consider themselves "above" social classes are themselves a type of snob, they are setting up an alternate class system, which puts those who are "free" from such "outdated constraints" (notice how many value judgments are being made here?) above those "classists," (a new pejorative to identify the new lower class). Even among progressives their are snobs who try to define the group of those like them, and exclude the group of those not like them. being part of a group, defining the group through shared behaviors and beleifs, and using those markers to exclude non-members of the group, appears to be part of our genetic makeup, perhaps a relic of the time when we most likely lived in bands like apes.
My own experience may be atypical; my parents were manual laborers, my mother was a migrant farmworker who picked cotton with her whole family at 10 years old. But I have two advanced degrees, which puts me in one type of upper middle definition, the "academic," and one of them is a traditional profession, which is generally a marker of high-middle, bourgeois, climbing and striving. It means nothing to me. I do, however, find it useful to know the norms of the different classes so that I am not limited, so that I can gain entre to and communicate with members of all classes. Despite having "risen" through american class structure, I live by what my parents taught me, that noone is better than me, but I am not better than anyone else either.
I do have several beleifs and habits which are probably class markers, which others might think "snobby," though I think of them more as a refusal to be a sap and a desire to have a little dignity. I never leave the house without a shirt with a collar, at minimum. I would never, ever wear "legible clothing," clothing with slogans, logos, and especially brand names. I really am snobby about "attention getting" behavior and attributes, thats why I do look down on those who wear slogans, jokes, and dirty pictures on their clothing.
The biggest divide I have seen between our culture and most europeans I have met,is this "attention getting" behavior so many americans display, the desire to be a spectacle, to shock, to be a clown. Like the idiots who jump up and down behind the reporter on the news, or who gather outside the "Good morning america" window, or beg to be picked on "the price is right." Ughhh. Watch a group of americans overseas wandering around, its embarrassing. I prefer to choose who I will share my opinions with, just as I wish many of those I disagree with would choose not to share their opinions with me. I do not want to be surrounded by people with "jesus saves" on their shirts, and therefore I avoid hypocracy by refraining from wearing my beleifs on my sleave. As far as brand names, that to me is the height of degradation, to announce to the world that you paid more than you should for a product because you harbor some primitive, totemic beleif that the "brand" will bestow status and success on you. Its why I don't have a sig line or a picture or anything. My message is my message, its what I say, not some icon, brand, totem, symbol, that I have chosen to represent me. When I travel I see a dignity in those cultures where even laborers and "peasants" wear suits when they go out of the house, and I pattern my behavior after these people more than I do on what most people would consider "upper class" people.
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