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Edited on Wed Jul-14-04 10:26 AM by RadFemFL
I am just SEETHING, so I just thought I'd dump it all here for you guys to read! I just got back from visiting my wonderful sister and her two adorable daughters who were adopted from China. While I was there, our cousin's husband died. Our cousin is our same age (early 40s). My mom went to the funeral, and while there, made this discovery (which she told me about last night on the phone):
My brother has a daughter (by birth) and my sister has two (by adoption). They are range in age from 1-3 years old. My aunt and uncle ONLY have my brother's daughter's photo displayed, and REFUSE to display my other nieces' photos because they are not 'blood related' (and not white). Several members of our family told my mother this while she was there.
ALSO... my cousin and her husband (the one who died) were in the process of trying to gain custody of his grandchildren. His son and daughter-in-law were killed in a car accident about a month before my cousin's husband died. These kids, age 9 and 14, have had a very rough life, and NEED my cousin to provide them some stability. However, they are half hispanic, and yes, you guessed it, my aunt and uncle are not supportive at all of my cousin -- even during this time when her husband has just died -- because the kids are not 'blood-related' (and not white).
I am LIVID. I can't decide if I want to write them a letter telling them exactly how I feel or not. Of course, the fact that I surrendered my first son for adoption when I was in high school probably doesn't sit too well with them either. After all, he was 'blood-related' and I 'gave him up' (which is complete BS of course -- full story here -- www.geocities.com/maryblock/marybb.html).
What's really strange is this is my dad's brother, and my dad was the most open-minded, non-racist guy you could ever meet. Heck, I dated a black guy in high school in the mid 1970s, my first serious boyfriend, and he was very supportive. So I just don't get it! These are my nieces, and my cousin's grandchildren! How can they deny these children, who are much loved and part of our family?
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