When Someone Chooses To Leave DU

[arwalden]

Poll question: When Someone Chooses To Leave DU

how do you prefer they do it?

[skypilot]

1. Are you planning on leaving us, Arwalden??

:(

[arwalden]

5. ROTFLMAO... Not Very Likely

But I like the way you think. It would be rather humorous for someone to take a poll to find out what how to make the best exit.

-- Allen

[LynneSin]

2. I refuse to acknowledge these "I'm leaving DU foreever and ever"

My best friend could post something like that here and I would just give her shit that she's crying out for attention. I've taken 'breaks' from DU by simply not posting here for a few days and then quietly return back.

Go ahead, leave, no tears from me!

[arcane1]

15. indeed

the public pity-posts don't do much for me either..

(and I can never really determine WTF they are talking about anyway)

they'll know I left DU when they starting wondering why I haven't posted in a while... and if they don't notice I'm gone, all the better.

[Rabrrrrrr]

3. I love the big, whiny, "Oh boo hoo for me" final flamethread

Let's me know that I won't have to read that person's OTHER whiny, "oh boo hoo for me" threads and posts any more.

p.s.: on edit, let me add that I really appreciated the Ultra-Whiny "Oh boo hoo for me" request for account termination that, uh, whoever the hell that was did last week or two weeks ago. What an idiot. Like anyone is going to be swayed by such a "bold" "political" comment and say, "Gosh! Maybe I should leave DU, too!"

:puke:

[terrya]

4. There's no need to be a drama queen

Some messages private messages to people who are friends...

And a quiet goodbye. That's the classiest way to do, IMO.

[jus_the_facts]

6. as the sayin' says....."...don't go away mad...just go away".....

....we've all felt this way at one point in time....hell LOTS o'times...just GO untill ya cool off or get over the crap that made ya wanna leave in the first place...no drama necessary IMHO! :hi:

[Insider]

7. count me in the compassionate

or some other noble character selection from "your 32-page glossy catalogue"

they can do it however they want, and i'll live with it. i'm darn sleepy, but i LOOOVE how we do feelings here, this way or that.

kum ba YAH, y'all.

[meegbear]

8. "publicly requesting account termination"

If they are leaving, then leave! Don't let the browser hit yer ass on the way out.

[soleft]

9. I think all terminations should require at least 6 months advance notice

allowing all group members adequate time to process the separation.

[arwalden]

11. I Think They Should Be Able To Bequeath Their Star Or Total Posts Count

to someone else upon their departure.

-- Allen

[catzies]

23. Bequeathing one's star not a bad idea.

Post count, not so much.

[skypilot]

10. If I ever decide to leave DU...

...I'm gonna go all Norma Desmond on all your asses.

"It's the message boards that got small!!"

You just wait.

[Dookus]

21. I'll see your

Norma Desmond and raise you a Bette Davis.

"What... a... DUMP"

[BarbaRosa]

12. I prefer a door slam

and a loud stomp away. It gives the rest of us something to talk about:evilgrin:

[Sapphocrat]

13. Other. It depends on three things...

1) Why they do it, and 2) how they say it, and 3) if they explain their reasoning in their dramatic flame-out.

Heck, I did it, back in the days before "Don't let the door..." was quite so common a figure of speech around here. It was dramatic, all right, but I did explain exactly why I was so pissed off. The replies I received were probably 70/30 in my support, and it was the supportive responses that brought me around. I expected to get flamed, but I knew, if nothing else, a lot of people who read my post would understand why I was so upset, whether they agreed with me or not.

Having been there, I figure if somebody is so frustrated to tell off the entire board before making an exit, it won't kill any of us to know why -- although we run the risk of learning that, hey! maybe this person does have a valid reason! Or not.

In any case, it's pretty cold to dismiss 'em with "Get a thicker skin" (and, oh, by the way, don't let the door hit you...).

Unless, of course, we're talking about a cryptic "Sod off! I hate all of you! I'm leaving!" post that doesn't have any purpose other than to purposely inflame. In that case, I'm happy to tell 'em not to let the door hit 'em in the ass.

P.S. Would I ever do such a thing again? Not on your life! Now I just take long, long vacations from DU when the not-so-friendly-gay stuff gets to be too much to handle, but I'd never dream of announcing it. Much of my behavior on DU has been modified (read: curtailed) sharply, and will probably continue to be, as the membership grows. With all due respect to Skinner (oh, he knows I love him) and DU at large, DU no longer has the kind of intimacy that affords one the luxury of straight-from-the-heart cries of agony.

[Guy_Montag]

14. No-one chooses to leave DU

when you stop hearing from them, it means somewhere in the Catskills another shallow grave has appeared. :tinfoilhat:

[BigMcLargehuge]

16. my motto: Don't go away mad, just go away

use the first rule of comedy - leave the audience wanting more. Making a big splash on departure breaks that rule.

[qwertyMike]

17. You cannont leave DU

It's like the Mafia..
Nobody leaves.



Alive

[arwalden]

18. Remember "The Prisoner"?

And that big bubble thing?

-- Allen

[felonious thunk]

19. But what if it's a non-dramatic goodbye?

I'm starting a new job next week, and I'm not going to be able to be on DU all day anymore. Quite possibly at all, in fact. I'm sure I'll check in here and there, but by and large, I'm going to leave.

But it's by necessity, and not dramatic, and I'm not mad, and I would just say goodbye, and wish everyone well.

Will this irritate???

[terrya]

20. It will irritate me because you won't be around.

I think this might be in some of those "I'm leaving DU because..." and they list all of the reasons that DU has gone downhill.

I will miss you here, felonious.

[felonious thunk]

24. Thanks, Terry

That means a lot to me. I'm sure I'll pop in from time to time, and I'll certainly come and celebrate in November!

[terrya]

25. You'd better...

And bring some friends. :-)

T

[arwalden]

27. "Gone Downhill" Really Means...

It's grown and changed and I'm incapable of accepting change and growing and changing myself.

Maybe.

Or "it could mean something else" (as they say. I've got to cover all the bases. LOL!)

-- Allen

[terrya]

22. What if you're hounded from DU?

And forced to resign?

There's some skeletons in my closet...

[arwalden]

28. Really? Let me see! Let me see!

I won't tell... promise!

-- Allen

[geniph]

26. I leave all the time

No one ever notices until I come back, then I usually get a couple of "hey, where've you been?" type posts. With 40,000 users, it's kind of hard to miss one single logon not appearing regularly.