How many times have you been in love?

[prolesunited]

Poll question: How many times have you been in love?

Just wondering. Feel free to elaborate on your experiences and how you knew it was love.

[GOPisEvil]

1. Not yet.

But someday. :-)

[prolesunited]

20. I'm sure it will happen

when you least expect it and the woman will have been very lucky to find you.

[m-jean03]

52. That's surprising David!

You must have pretty high standards, hm?:)

[GOPisEvil]

53. I try not to use the word "love" lightly.

I've been in serious like many times, but never love. I've known some women I *could* love, but it never worked out.

[m-jean03]

54. I understand this as well.

...I obviously don't take "that word" lightly at all! :7

No, I can honestly say I've truly been in love, (Ms. Oh will have to be exempt from my list.) When I've cried over someone, or woken up at night wishing they were with me -- I knew, at these times, it was love.

[Champ]

2. Once

I was stupid for doing what I did. It was hard to date another woman after leaving her(high school)(I didn't break up with her per se, I was living with my grandparents at the time(staunch conservatives, it was tough living with people like that) and then I moved back here in Mesa, AZ. But after awhile I realized I made a big mistake, I was much happier living with north with my grandparents because I realized I had so much(not material things).

[ewagner]

3. You mean today? n/t

[Mistress Quickly]

4. Twice

once, my first boyfriend, who was killed on News Years Day, 1985 when he, on his motorcycle, ran into a cop car coming through a red light with his lights on.

Second time, the current Mr. Eye22004

I did date a guy for 6 years, but he was an asshole who I have NO IDEA why I didn't just kick his ass the first time he was psychologically abusive to me. Geez, was I so desperate?

[Nicholas D Wolfwood]

8. Unfortunately

"Desperate" has nothing to do with it. Psychologically abusive people tend to exert some kind of control over their victims. Very, very common - I wouldn't take it so hard.

[Mistress Quickly]

11. Thanks

I don't take it too hard now. Because of it, I am a stronger woman, but I sometimes have this urge to call him up and laugh at him, and tell him what a loser he is.

:evilgrin:

[amandae]

5. Two times ...

married once. It was so much better that the other one "got away"!

:hi:

[Birthmark]

6. Roughly 200 times

...and that's just last week.

[Champ]

7. It seems....

Your definition of love is not real deep. lmao, it seems to me for you "Oh she's hot, I must be in love." :)

[Birthmark]

9. Oh, no. It's quite deep.

I'm just extremely friendly and have a terrible attention span. :)

[RoyGBiv]

10. Other

I've only truly been in love once, but I don't believe there is only one true love.

Or at least I hope not.

[xchrom]

12. 7 or more column

god -- i loved all my lovers -- they were all lovely boys.
some relationships were cantankerous -- some boisterous -- some drug/alcohol filled -- some peacefull.
and may i have many, many more. for me, variety is definetly the spice of life.
oh i should also note that there's a couple of girls in there who comforted me after a couple of break ups and i was up to my damn eyebrows with boys!

[supernova]

13. Once so far

and it was extremely painful.

I hope to have a better experience someday.

[VelmaD]

14. I honestly don't know

A part of me thinks I haven't ever really been in love. Then again there are a couple of guys that I remember with great fondness and I think "well, maybe" but I'm just not sure.

I live in perpetual hope though that it will happen one day and I will know for sure. :)

[prolesunited]

21. No, don't think that was love then

If you had been in love, there would be no doubt in your mind. Hard to explain, but you'll know it when you find it. Good luck in your quest. :-)

[Lisa0825]

15. once, but I voted "other" because I don't believe in "one true love."

otherwise, I'm outta luck, since we're divorced now!LOL

[HEyHEY]

16. Once - but it wasn't mutual

I never told her, I liked her too much that I was too scared to ever make a move for fear of rejection.
I figure that must have been love.
We still talk all the time - she's mexican and lives there. It actually took me a couple years to get over her and start looking around for other girls. Now, however, I don't seem to be too concerned with relationships.

[Commie Pinko Dirtbag]

17. The Fifth One Said Yes

And I Am Happy! :loveya:

[tjwash]

18. Married for the third time

This one IS the charm.

[democratreformed]

19. Other

I have been in love only once with my soul-mate. I couldn't choose your "once" though, b/c I feel that I was very fortunate to find him. BUT, I also feel that there can be second or third chances. Luckily, I've never had to test that theory.

[bloodyjack]

22. at laaaaaaaaast

my lo-o-o-o-o-o-o-ove has come along
my lo-o-onely days are over
and life is li-i-ike a so-o-o-o-o-o-o-ong

[liberalhistorian]

23. Well, if Dean (NightTrain)

and I are ever able to meet in person, maybe I'll be able to say twice!!!!!!:bounce: :bounce:

[prolesunited]

24. I hope that happens for the two of you

real soon! :-)

[liberalhistorian]

31. Me, too!

eom

[NightTrain]

45. I'm gonna make you love me/Oh yes I will, yes I will....

:*:*:*:*:*:*:*:*:*:*:*:*

[ronnykmarshall]

25. Twice

Even though Michael is my true love and my life partner, I was very much in love with my previous boyfriend.

[nothingshocksmeanymore]

26. Haven't kept count, but I still adore most of the people I have been

in love with even if it didn't work out.

[bigwillq]

27. Two times

One--With my high school sweetheart Carrie and
Two-With my current boyfriend

[DEM FAN]

28. Not Yet. I'll Tell YA. I Am Sick Of Waiting.

:-)

[prolesunited]

29. Just curious

How old are you?

[DEM FAN]

40. I Am 33.

:-)

[La Lioness Priyanka]

30. not sure i believe in the concept of in love

[Canuckistanian]

32. I've fallen in love probably too many times

I just love women. <sigh>
:loveya:

[Lisa]

35. well, now I don't feel so bad

Not counting crushes (on guys I knew were inaccessible) and dashed hopes (someone I was about to ask out until I noticed the engagement ring), I've been deeply, desperately in love maybe 3 times now. And judging by what happened -- or didn't happen -- that may have been 3 times too many.

[bleedingheart]

33. Many different types of love...

love for a parent...

love for a pet...

puppy love in high school

and of course the more adult love

and best of all...the love for my kids...

[put out]

34. Many times.

And when I'm not in love, I at least conjure up an intense crush.

Makes life worth living, in my opinion. Heartache fades, but the good memories last. At least, for me.

[Robb]

36. Just once. Beware, this is a sad story!

I had the luck to meet the love of my life, lose her, and get her back again.

We dated for two intense years at 19 and 20, the last six months of which was a long-distance affair... we decided that was too gruesome a prospect and went our own ways. We each had our own torrid, painful and scarring relationships afterwards with other people.

Fast forward eight years, and I'm planning a driving trip from SF around the country, to visit old friends. On a whim, I call the only person I know between CA and Boston, she's in Denver, ask her if I could crash a night, maybe we could have dinner.

We married six months later. People in Boston are still waiting for me to show up.

After six wonderful years of marriage, she's "lost the fire" for me and is moving on. Who knows, maybe I'll finally make it to Boston now. Or maybe I just have to wait another eight years for the wheel to spin around for us again.

...and if THAT didn't harsh on yer mellow, I don't know what will. :evilgrin: Sorry! :D

Love! Feh! ;)

[SarahB]

37. Three

I define "love" as something mutual where there is a relationship. Where there is some mutual emotional investment going on. I think crushes don't count really. I've have a few unrequited crushes and a few toward me. I had dated several people before I was married and liked them but there was no deeper connection except with one.

I have a hard time letting go and letting myself connect and when it happens, I take my feelings seriously. Love is rather undefinable- you just know, but I was never one to fall in love easily. Never one to even have crushes easily. It's almost like I refuse to let myself go there and click that little switch unless I'm sure they're feeling the same way because I know how powerful it is when I do. I tend to prefer to maintain my composure on matters of the heart which is why I've been able to be so pragmatic in the face of a lot over the past few years.

My loves :loveya: :

The Love That Was My First Love- We had a very strong connection on every level, but it was almost too strong and too much and we were only 16 and 17. It was very amazing and broke my heart when we split. I still think about him sometimes and I haven't even seen him in 10 years.

The Love That Couldn't Be- Another amazing connection type of thing that was very brief. This was not planned, and circumstances made it impossible to really have the relationship we would have wanted and for us to see how it could all work. Not much closure here. This one haunts me for so many reasons. I miss him.

The Love I Wasn't Ready For- This is my marriage. I did love my husband. I still do in a sense, but he was ready for something serious and I was just too young (when we were married he was 28 and I was 19) to know myself and to really even know him. I lost myself for a long time trying to be the person I thought he wanted and trying to always do everything "right" despite many feelings telling me things weren't quite right. We can make a good team, but I don't think that's going to be enough for the long haul in the face of 13 years of assorted hurts and uncertainties.

Edit: bad grammar

[pmbryant]

38. Had to vote 'other'

I've only been in love once, but, based on my observations of other people, I don't think there is only "one true love". (With the possible exception of those who fall in love when very young.)

--Peter

[prolesunited]

41. You're not the first

to bring that up. I wish I would have phrased it better or had another option for once, but believing other loves are possible. As in your case, though, sometimes once is enough. :-)

[everythingsxen]

39. Uno

:loveya:

[RFKHumphreyObama]

42. I've been in love but it's never been reciprocated

And knowing my luck it never will be:(

[Obamarama]

43. THOUGHT I was in love 5 or 6 times.....

I think I was more in love with the notion of being in love.

But then I met the right one and finally knew what love REALLY feels like. Still feeling it after 15 years of ups and downs and twists and turns, and it keeps getting stronger and better as time advances. But alas, we're still unable to experience that highly-touted "sanctity of marriage."

[Throckmorton]

44. Romantic Love twice,

and sadly both of them died on me.

[m-jean03]

46. There's those two people I knew intimately

And then there's this babe named Sandra Oh...



:9

[GOPisEvil]

47. I had no idea!

:o

Is the "Arliss" DVD collection a good gift for you then? :D

[m-jean03]

48. Yes please

I will expect to see it in your hands when I meet you

:D

More Sandra...

[GOPisEvil]

49. Didn't know your tastes ran in that direction.

She is cute, I'll give you that. ;-)

[m-jean03]

50. You know, for the most part they don't --

But there is something about her and those little skirts and jean jackets she wears --tough and girly at the same time! Life is strange, the feelings it gives you sometimes!

I don't know if I would ever do anything about it, were I given the opportunity. It could just be a straight-girl crush! :7

[GOPisEvil]

51. I understand.

Some people just "do it" for us, no explanation for it. It just is.

[Canuckistanian]

55. Thought I was in love a coupla times before

With the girl next door
That was long before I met ya,
Now i'm sure that i can't forget ya....

[thebeaglehaslanded]

56. Endlessly...a day is wasted if you're not in love with someone/something

[Hemprus]

57. Figment if our imagination..

an illusion done with mirrors. Now you see it now you don't! When you crave it, it isn't there. When you have it you just don't know if its really there or not. Love is just a tool for poets and writers to use to allure us into a false sense of security, to think that we need it to live. Ba Humbug!:crazy: I'm just going to follow the rule of thumb,"Watch out for #1 and don't step in #2!"

[prolesunited]

58. Bitter and disillusioned much?

I hope one day you can open your heart and find it. You can certainly survive without it (I know because I have for MANY years), however, having it certainly makes the journey through life so much sweeter.

[Hemprus]

59. Thanks

the hearts been opened alittle too much and now all the heat has escaped leaving a cold empty place.:nopity: Maybe like you say, one day love will come my way. But, from past experiences I think that I'll be on that train when love comes to town.

[SOteric]

60. Lucky me, more than a few times.

:hi: