Ex, told me, he don't have to pay child support anymore,

[Lisabtrucking]

now that the Re-pugs, and bush is in charge. He told me Bush will force me to take him back, and I will have to do what he wants me to do. My Ex was abusive to his children and a drug user. His drug of choice is Acid. So far, I have complained about his reluctance to pay child support, and they don't do anything about it. A detective called me and told me he went to a neighborhood news paper and told them. He was going to kill me and chop me up in front of my children. Court wouldn't even allow me a restraining order. Even with the police report and the detectives report.

This is a typical belief of republicans that women should be submissive to their husbands. I say, Over my dead body!

Just a WARNING to all women. This government is becoming more and more like the early 60's. I fear we are loosing our rights.

[libhill]

1. Early 1860's you mean -

n/t

[_TJ_]

2. Please please tell me this isn't for real

This can't really have happened can it :wow:

[sakabatou]

3. Have you appealed for the restraining order?

[Lisabtrucking]

4. My lawyer just rubbed his head. The judge said I wasn't in immanent

danger. The lawyer told me if my ex comes to my house and raises his fist to me, then they will give me a restraining order. This is no BS, this really happen. My lawyer told me to buy a gun.

[sakabatou]

31. Gun is too dangerous to have in thhe house IMO

Get a metal handle hockey stick.

[ohio_liberal]

5. Been there, done that

I have complained about his reluctance to pay child support, and they don't do anything about it.

It took me 6 years to get child support. My state is supposed to have all sorts of methods to get a deadbeat to pay but strangely they don't seem to use them.

Court wouldn't even allow me a restraining order.

Now that I did get pretty easily. All it took was a prosecutor and a judge listening to a message left on my answering machine. The police didn't do it though. I went straight to an assistant prosecuting attorney myself.

[Lisabtrucking]

7. I also have him on my answering machine threatening to kill me,

and the detective told me he thinks my ex is a nut bag and looses his temper easily, but the court still wouldn't grant me a restraining order. Maybe because I live in Florida.

[ohio_liberal]

12. I don't think it's just about Florida

I know this kind of stuff happens everywhere. If you aren't already, start documenting EVERYTHING. Don't give up. Keep showing the police a pattern of harrassment and physical threats.

[tsuki]

27. No, it's Jeb's state. If you have the tape on the answering machine,

see the state's attorney.

[_TJ_]

6. You have my uttermost sympathies

If you'll pardon my language your ex sounds like a c*nt.

[Lisabtrucking]

8. He is a real ick, and thanks, but what I want most is for women to

be aware that the court don't always help you.

[LincolnMcGrath]

16. The courts don't always help either gender.

Sorry your ex is a douche bag.

[MadHound]

9. Well, I hate to say this,

But if your ex isn't going to pay child support, yet is threatening to do harm to you, it is time for you to get the fuck outta Dodge, and go somewhere you and your children can't be found. Do you have sole custody of the kids? If so then, you shouldn't have any problems moving and leaving no forwarding address.

I know, I know, it isn't right nor just, and it will be an all around pain in the ass, but it sounds like your ex is one violent, controlling MFer, and to continue to live with that sort of threat over your head will kill you from the stress. Best to leave, and live where the man can't find you.

[libhill]

10. Good advice -

She needs to get a move on, and do what's best for herself and her babies - sounds like a damned dangerous situation. So much for the Repuke "Family Values" bull shit.

[tsuki]

28. Unfortunately, in FL, usually joint custody is given with where the

children reside. If she takes them or moves them, she must get permission. And the law does take that seriously.

[ohio_liberal]

11. Unfortunately, it isn't always that easy

Take your kids out of state and you could be in big trouble. Most divorce papers state pretty specifically that the non-custodial or non-residential parent must always know his/her children's address and phone number.

[Lisabtrucking]

13. I have full custody and I do live in another state from him. I also

took my lawyers advice and bought a Pistol
Model: 3913TSW
Caliber: 9mm
Barrel Length: 3-1/2"
Capacity: 8 Rounds +1

[CindyDale]

17. If you haven't already, you should call for help

National Domestic Violence Hotline

http://www.ndvh.org/

[nadinbrzezinski]

18. Learn to use it

Clean it often

Go to the range once a week

realize if you aim it at somebody YOU WILL pull the trigger and hit center of mass...

If you are not ready to do this, get rid of it, as it is more of a liabilty to you

[Lisabtrucking]

23. I am very careful with it, and have taken all necessary safe guards.

I won't use it unless he tries to break in. I have the police reports and the report from the detective. He was the one who visited my ex at his job and questioned him about the treats he made to the news paper. I am a pretty good shot also.

[ohio_liberal]

26. Make sure he's in the house before you shoot

just sayin' :shrug:

[Bridget Burke]

21. Keep the pistol well locked away....

If you value the lives of your children.

[TahitiNut]

33. Cute.

[demwing]

14. "This is a typical belief of republicans "? Bullshit

This is a typical belief of psychotic monsters.

Lets not pretend that all Republicans are the same, any more than all Dems are the same.

Sorry for your plight. I hope the bastard gets what he deserves.

[Lisabtrucking]

15. I say republicans because ever since the republicans got control

of our government my husband has had a free ride. When Clinton, and the Dem's where in charge things got done. I will correct that statement, In my opinion this is a typical belief of republicans.

[DearAbby]

19. File a report with the Police, make sure you have a current RO

You dont have to take his shit. See Social Services about the Child Support, they can force him to pay...Some states have it that if you are behind on your support you can't be allowed to have a drivers license, they also take the Refunds of Taxes to pay for back support. you have rights, Try calling your local Legal aid...there is no reason you should have to live in fear.


PS...find out where the nearest Women's shelter is, just in case...keep the phone handy. Call the police that is what they are there for.

[Lisabtrucking]

20. Done all that, and more. The womens shelter were very

helpful, but there is nothing else they can do. I was just shocked at the court system and so was my lawyer. I'm not afraid, I'm mad as hell.

[Technowitch]

24. I've been through similar straits

In my case, it wasn't an Ex, but another family member threatening to kill me.

Cops said to me, "Call us when he actually does something." (exact quote)

Don't let yours get under your skin, honey -- he's saying those things precisely to make you frightened and to feel power over you. Why? To make up for a lack of power elsewhere in his life.

hugs,
-Technowitch

[katinmn]

29. In Minnesota they garnishee their wages

since so many weren't voluntarily complying with court orders.

[Cleita]

22. No kidding we are losing our rights and

a lot of those Xtian women are helping it happen.

[Oilwellian]

25. Move to a state that enforces child support laws

When I divorced in Louisiana and my ex thought he could play games with child support, they sent him to jail to rethink things. I never had a problem after that.

On edit: Your post also reminded me of this thread:
http://www.democraticunderground.com/discuss/duboard.php?az=view_all&address=104x3331670

[radwriter0555]

35. Screw that. Walk away. Your kids don't need him. Let him go away, don't

ask him for a dime. Money will be tight, but millions of women the world over have survived just fine without a trifling man and his trifling money.

Let him walk away.

[katinmn]

30. Bush has sent that message, make no mistake about it

[in_cog_ni_to]

32. Please call a shelter. Get the hell away from him. Take your kids and go.

My G-d. I cannot believe the police won't help you. You poor thing. :hug:

[tammywammy]

34. I'll be praying for you

But, you need to get to a shelter and be protected.
Isn't there a way to garnish his wages for child support?