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seabeyond Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Dec-08-11 08:20 PM
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194. i see the "date rape" a little differently than a lot of people
and a lot of women.

i am not in line on this. i dont think that the guy is necessarily evil. that seems to be the context that we put the rapist in. i think what is happening today, with the date/friend rapes it is so beyond what we get to, because we do not want to believe the boy next door is capable. i think they are quite capable. and i dont think these kids are throw away, either.

you look at who was being asked, and these were relatively young men and boys/girls. they are just walking into the real world and their sexuality. trying to figure out with the rest of us. they are learning things from our adult world at a way too young age. and they are not processing it the same as an adult would. i think the reason we have so many missteps in threads like these are men are generally older and much older and they are beyond their younger days and are not quite remembering them. the men so get rape is wrong. have known women that have been raped. are comfortable in their manhood and sexuality. they get it. so, the concept that that large of a group of college guys would rape if they didnt get caught is foriegn, unthinkable to them.

the two genders are trying to figure out their roles in their sexuality and this is a confusing part that they are fed endlessly to the role of male and the role of female from our society.

this is why subjects like the objectification, privilege, and yes, sorry, even porn, are such an issue for women today and we discuss. it is all wrapping around each other.

if adults and parents especially, dont have consistent and occassional conversation to explore with the children on this subject and their roles, they are going to gain the info somewhere.... and it probably wont be pretty.

any, ... thanks for listening. agree or not, i dont care. lol. just listening or thinking is good stuff

hey... you always seem to tell me you are a bet of an isolationist. i am right there with you. sigh...
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