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Sarah Ibarruri Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Jul-01-11 10:23 AM
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37. I have a story and I need some advice
Edited on Fri Jul-01-11 10:27 AM by Sarah Ibarruri
I have been married, divorced, widowed, and was lonely. Someone mentioned I should get on a dating website, and I did. I put up some photos of myself, wrote a profile which was fiercely liberal and Democrat, and I specified that any right wing men need not apply. Then I waited.

Oh my God. I was overwhelmed with e-mails from right wingers, all telling me I was wrong to limit myself to lefties and Democrats, and that I had tunnel vision. I responded to each of them letting them know that I did not respect the point of view of Republicans, and that even in the unlikely chance that I would start a relationship with one, it would end up getting ugly the moment I heard something unempathetic, cruel, or nonsensical come out of their mouth. I ended up e-mailing back and forth with a lot of right wingers, and I'm still e-mailing with a few of these. At times it gets heated and we end up insulting one another. At times, it's merely an attempt at understanding or getting through. I don't like the way right wingers think. It's cruel, it's filled with fear, it's illogical, it involves a lot of fairy tales, and above all, it's punitive.

Meantime, no lefties were e-mailing me. Where are all the lefties? Don't they frequent dating websites?

In any case, one of those right wingers and I got friendly. I began to see things in him that were not so 'right wing.' For example, he thinks all hungry people should be fed, he thinks we need to pull out of the Middle East, he thinks the military budget is through the roof and that needs to stop. He's family oriented, and in that he's like me (I'm Latin, so family is paramount to me). He's also funny and makes me laugh till I cry. He's very much a gentleman, and I love that. He's a science and math guy. Last of all, he LOVES to talk, and boy, so do I.

However, recently I've been noticing things that I think I won't be able to deal with. For example, he believes many of the homeless are 'lazy,' he thinks free trade is great 'in the long run' even if it removed so many jobs from this country that we're now headed to 3rd world status at breakneck speed, and he thinks that increasing the taxes of the rich and corporations to pre-Reagan rates is very bad for the country. These are but an example of those views he holds that I feel completely different about.

I don't want to end this thing in an ugly way. Also, I really want to have a guy to go out with, have fun with, and not be lonely. I really like this right wing guy. Granted, I wouldn't be with him if I'd met some liberals and lefties. However, I don't know what to do. I'm very very committed to my ideals, and they're not right wing.

I have no clue where to go with this.

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