Reply #115: I have a friend with three adult male children, none of whom have a job

[Lorien]

they all live with their dad and his new wife. They just don't "want" to work. Well hell, most of us would rather not be working, but that's just part of being an adult. All three are fairly attractive and intelligent, but not one has a girlfriend; why would anyone want to get involved with a lazy deadbeat? Her sons constantly hit her up for money even though she's unemployed. It's pathetic. And they are hardly alone; another 48 year old man I know has been supported by his wife's 38k income for 7 years. He won't help around the house except to do a little laundry, never helps out with the kids. It's only a matter of time before she kicks him out. Other women I know have already done the same with their deadbeat boys and husbands. Boys are under-performing girls in school, enrolling less than women in college...what gives? Was Bart Simpson a roll model for half the boys in this country a decade or two ago? Why the lack of drive and ambition? I think that women are doing what has to be done to survive, but why men are increasingly dropping out and moving back in with mom and dad...? Is it only an American phenomenon of is it global?