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Juche Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Nov-06-09 08:54 PM
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31. It is part of it
Edited on Fri Nov-06-09 08:56 PM by Juche
Here is my point:

1. Most people who have trouble with social skills and boundaries are likely harmless. Either they have been abused, or they are weird, or they are insecure/anxious, or they have an illness, etc.

2. Truly dangerous people know most people, when looking for red flags, are likely just looking for low social status, bad social skills and fear of strangers. So the truly dangerous know how to get around that. They have good social skills, high social status and they know how to make people feel comfortable with them. Most truly dangerous sexual predators go after people who they can make feel safe enough being alone with them. It is only when they have their prey isolated that they act. Truly dangerous people know how to groom their victims and how to avoid setting off alarms until it it too late.

3. It is offensive and hurtful to all of us who are weird to know that we are going to be labeled as rapists merely because of social awkwardness. It is doubly offensive and hurtful because some of us know the women who are labeling us as rapists and child molesters will be easy prey for the real predators out there, who know how to avoid setting off red flags. While these women pat themselves on the back for labeling every lonely person or person with Aspergers as a rapist, the real rapists would likely have little/no trouble getting them alone and vulnerable.

4. I have a history of mental illness, and I felt totally abandoned and forgotten when I was sick. And the illness made me awkward. Instead of seeing my awkwardness for what it was (a sign that I was confused and isolated) some people saw it as a threat and I felt even more isolated. Now that I'm much healthier, it is hard for me to trust that other people are competent and mature enough to deserve my friendship. And its hard to find people who I feel are competent, trustworthy, mature, compassionate and understanding enough to feel I can rely on them. And posts like the one I linked to brought those feelings of isolation up inside of me.

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