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Adelante Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri May-08-09 10:42 AM
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20. As unrealistic as abstinence only
Human beings are tempted and human beings fail. It's going to happen and it's going to hurt somebody. I don't generally judge people's sex lives. I don't see it as my business who sleeps with who, as long as it doesn't involve children or animals. Now, open marriage was tried by my generation with all good intention. It was about freedom. But in my observation it didn't come pain-free or without destruction, so even if there is an agreement, human frailty may prevail. If you try for no expectations of a partner in this area, it likely will still hurt even if you don't want it to. If you try for every expectation, it will most certainly hurt even more. It's something each partnership has to work out and every human being is unique in emotional makeup, strength and weakness varies from person to person. Yes, there are people, I've known a few, who can operate safely in a completely open sexual environment - it's usually their partners who can't and I've always wondered about that, why either would commit on such an unequal playing field.
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