Reply #95: Most girls can't pull it off, but a few can.

[Xithras]

I've personally got TWO stories like that. When I was 17, I met a girl who claimed to be 16. It turned out that she was 13.

When I was 16, I dated and had sex with a girl who claimed to be 15. She turned out to be 12.

In both cases, both girls looked to be the age they claimed. In the case of the second, she certainly looked to be a "young" 15, but she hung around older girls and convinced them to lie about her age. When she says she's 15, and both her sister and friends say she's 15, there isn't much room to question the claim. It was a slip of conversation after we'd been seeing each other a few weeks that set me off...the sister was 15 also and mentioned that her birthday was in January in a conversation. I already knew that my "girlfriends" birthday was in March. I went from zero to freaking out in two seconds and went off on the sister...she confessed that her younger sister was only 12 after a minute or two of berating. I can't describe how shitty I felt at that moment.

It does happen, and it's not always because the guy just wants to get it on with a young kid. Not ALL girls can pull it off, but some do. My own daughter, at 12, looked like she was about 8. At 15, she still looks like a 13 year old, so I'd NEVER buy that argument from a guy about her. Most of her friends look their ages, but she has a couple of 14 and 15 year old friends who could pass for 18 easily. She also told us recently that one of her 16 year old friends has been passing herself off as a college student and was seeing a 25 year old guy. I questioned that one until she showed me a pic on her cellphone of the girl and a couple friends as they were going out. If you met her and she claimed to be 19, you'd NEVER question it.

To my daughters credit, she thinks her friend is an idiot.