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ljm2002 Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Aug-01-08 08:28 PM
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57. You have my sympathy... mom died of cancer of the liver and pancreas. It was 2 months from diagnosis to her passing. The thing is, we had time to say good-bye, but it did not drag on for months or years. But that doesn't make it easier, it is just wrenching to say good-bye to a parent.

Now I also want to say, you have my utmost admiration for being who you are, and being willing to get out there in print and say what you believe, in spite of the well-known proclivities of the rabid right who are always so eager to smear and attack those who do not subscribe to their view of the world. You are one brave and well-spoken woman.

So while you are dealing with the alcohol issue, don't let any voices in your psyche (we all have them, those tapes that play in our internal dialog) tell you anything bad about yourself. Right now you need encouragement and affirmation. If you notice one of those negative tapes playing in your mind, just tell it to shut the hell up, and remember, there are many people, myself included, who really truly admire you. Think about that and make up some new, positive tapes.

It does not have to be a Pollyanna exercise, you can take up self-criticism again. Later. When you're not so vulnerable. Give yourself a year -- I'm serious. It takes that long for the old habits to be replaced, and you are also dealing with a difficult personal loss.

Be well, say your good byes, give your Dad what comfort you can, and take care of yourself. It's worth it.

We all have to go some day -- we're born, we live, we die. It's the living part that counts.
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