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jgraz Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Jul-22-07 12:19 AM
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188. How would I expect someone to take it? For starters, like a rational adult.
"When someone asks you why you don't have children, do you not automaticly feel the need to defend your position?"

Heh -- not in the least. I usually just laugh. I certainly don't feel threatened or defensive.

"Saying that it is HARMFUL to this planet for people to have a child is a broad generic condemnation of those who not only have already made that decision, but an attempt to discourage others from the same 'mistake'."

Here you need to separate statements of fact from your own perceived judgment. If someone says that driving is harmful to the planet, do you feel condemned for all the cars you've owned in your life? Or are you able to evaluate that statement and discuss it independently of your own actions?

One that strikes a bit closer to home for me is the statement of fact about buying pets at pet stores. I was told how harmful this is only after I had purchased my conure, whom I love as much as I can imagine loving a child. I felt no need to defend my previous choices, I just took the opportunity to discuss the issue that had been raised.

"your reply to me only reinforces my feeling that there is indeed a "veiled accusation" implying those who have children are harming the planet and less concerned about the earth."

I certainly would never say that, anymore than I would say that people who buy pets in pet stores don't care about cruelty to animals. My point is that this issue should not be taboo, and people who bring it up for discussion should not be attacked in the way that the OP has been.

I won't even get into your orange tree analogy, other than to say I really hope you aren't juicing your kids. :P

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