Reply #292: Verbal violence is not acceptable in any form

[Thor_MN]

Some random thoughts, for which I might be attacked and told I don't get it and it's different for women, but I find these things to be true and irrelevant of gender, race, whatever.

Disagreements between individuals often devolve to personal attacks.

People will use whatever is effective at disturbing their opponent. A weapon become effective because it affects its target. The target and weapon are intertwined, people will always use the thing that hurts the other person. Yin Yang, inseparable. If one has a vulnerability, your opponent will use it.

Conversely, there is little point in attacking a person with something that does not affect them. Wielding an ineffective weapon actually makes a person a weaker - they essentially waste their effort for no effect.

Abuse can not exist without both an abuser and an abused. Abuse should never be acceptable, both individuals need help to get rid of the abuse. Treating one half of the problem can not solve it.

Taking a public stand on a controversial matter will result in people disagreeing with you. Some of those people will be hateful, with no hope of arguing their side logically, so they will resort to personal attacks. The attacks are not acceptable, but should be expected. The attackers are trying to influence the opinion of the person speaking out, just as the person speaking out is trying to influence the opinion of anyone who listens.