Reply #2: Excellent point that 'a lot gets lost in translation.'

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You or your sister (or another) should serve as 'advocates' for your mom; that means, talk to EVERYONE involved, get all the facts, from before, and now, and potential future, so the best decisions can be made.

As to care for your mom, when necessary/appropriate, hospice proves wonderful care and advice, at no cost; picked up by govt.