Reply #4: How sad not to be able to grieve openly with those you love.

[havocmom]

But if you can spend time with your best friend in a few weeks, it may be a great gift to her. Sometimes, that is when loss hits hardest and everybody else has gone on about their lives leaving people feeling alone at the time it hurts most.

She probably is so busy taking care of her mom that she doesn't have time to really grieve now either. Later, when she has time to fall apart, you will be there to catch her. It probably works out best that way.

In the meantime, do you have any pictures of your friend and her dad in happy times? Might be a good idea to gather them up if you have any mementos. Or keep a notebook out and jot down notes on memories about her dad and family so you can remind her and she can draw strength from your shared times. When the two of you have time to be together you can offer some sweet memories to help wash down the bitter pill of her loss.

Til then, you have us here. We all have broad enough shoulders to cry on. This is a safe place. As all the different waves of emotions hit you and threaten to swamp your ship, remember we are here.

You aren't alone. Lean on others so you will be strong when your best friend needs to lean on you.

Sending strength

hm