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Withywindle Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Nov-26-04 09:41 PM
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16. Ha, that's very true!
Right on. In my experience, aiming a love spell at a specific person is a wretched mistake, but it's a mistake almost every young witch has to make at least once.

The way it backfired on me was that I became ten times as obsessed with this person as I had been before. I get really bad crushes to begin with, and now this felt literally like "wasting away for love" in the medieval sense. I lost friends because I couldn't talk about anything else. And, to make a very long story short, in the long run the relationship did happen, and it was mostly a disaster. Still get scary hate mail from him periodically, even though we split up 10 years ago.

He was a piece of work, but ultimately I have no one to blame for the situation but myself.

So no, can't recommend it in good conscience (though of course you will do as you please :P). I can recommend spending a lot of time with oneself, figuring out what one truly wants, and putting out a general request for a lover who will be right for you.

My more recent attempt at that seemed like it was going to backfire also, if less painfully. I just wanted a hot rebound fling some time after a breakup and the only thing I insisted on was that it be somebody cool; we had to at least honestly like each other. No melodrama. For a focus, I was using a jar candle from the local botanica that referenced Mexican folk magic and had a hummingbird at a flower as a sexual symbol. Sometime in the middle of this I went to visit my parents for a week--and found that they'd gone a little nuts with the hummingbird feeders, so I spent the days out on the deck with my laptop being buzzed by dozens of the flitty little things! Hummingbirds EVERYWHERE.

(Some months later I had a half-drunk hookup with a friend of a friend, and we've now been living together for three years).
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