Reply #2: the worst part is the feeling of loss of support system too

[FirstLight]

All my friends are flaking on me now too.

The oldest one works literally a block from the Boys & girls club and can;t committ to walking down the street to pick them up at 5:30 since I won;t be getting off till 6. And even when she has comitted in the past, she has flaked miserably.

Another friend just moved back into her house after messy divorce issues all summer and I showed up and loved and helped her through it, coioked dinner a few times when she was moving and painted and cleaned and raked, over several days. Never asking for anything in return - when she was paying helpers and friends for painting & such. it was all about community for me. ...now she won't even comitt to watching my kids for a half hour for me to drop off a resume...and when i mentioned the afternoon issues over the next two weeks and my angst, she makes a joke about my teen and him needing to do it, even though he doesn;t have a car...just tell h9im he has to ride his bike home, lol...

I feel like the people I was here for have left me in the lurch and don;t respect my anxiety over this. I have been THERE for my kids for 4 years, working my own hours and making sure someone was THERE for them ...