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Reply #18: Yes you can pity someone and respect them. The premise that says otherwise is flawed. Pity [View All]

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18. Yes you can pity someone and respect them. The premise that says otherwise is flawed. Pity
is a feeling. A good and necessary one. The disabled despise it because it constantly illustrates their situation, and no one likes to be reminded of what hurts them. Your characterization of pity is an extreme and rare example that cannot fairly be applied across the spectrum. I can think of legion examples wherein I pitied someone and respected them at the same time. Jerry may make you uncomfortable with his "references", but they are clearly designed to elicit pity and thereby money(His job.) (At no point is there the least intimation that Jerry thinks the disabled are less important or intelligent, quite the opposite in fact.). Money which is necessary to someday, hopefully, removing the entire underpinnings for this argument. No, I'm not arguing ends/means, I'm arguing for an understanding and appreciation which you demand, but refuse to apply. Don't at any point get the idea that I'm enamored of some of Jerry's more gauche statements. The man is certainly not the pinnacle of sensitive, but neither is he worthy of tar and feathering. He certainly has loved and been loved, and shown some amazing generosity and resilience in the face of mountainous odds.

Yes, I would definitely hire "a wheelchair-bound cripple afflicted with cerebral palsy" if they were able to show competence at the position they were applying for. I would not, however, hire them if they had a chip on their shoulder and became offended every time someone attempted to help them or displayed an ignorance of their condition. In fact one of my employees with massive problems (A man named Al who had so many problems I can't even begin to go into them. Suffice it to explain that he stepped on a land mine in Vietnam and survived.), was one of the finest people and workers I've ever known. I certainly pitied him, but to this day(He's since passed.) I look up to him in a way I look up to few people other than my parents. He was smarter and a far harder worker than I could ever be.

Sorry about the digression, but I'm going to stick with my point that pity does not equal bigotry and is not automatically a negative or undesirable thing. I know from personal experience and observation that it does not signify a lack of respect either.
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