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IdaBriggs Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Jan-15-05 09:08 AM
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49. Stop using ignorance to ignore reality.
You keep trying to say this guy should be able to lower his child support payments because he is temporarily unemployed. That argument does not wash because the expenses incurred on behalf of the child -- rent, food, heat, clothing -- do NOT go away because of his current situation, and he is legally responsible for making sure they are paid. In this case, living in Oakland County, Michigan (assuming he is near you and me), we both know that $1,000 a month will only provide housing in a crack hood neighborhood in Pontiac, so thank heaven's the child has a good mother who works, and a decent step-father who helps out!

This is a question of responsibility. Either pay your child support (and in many, if not most cases, when a parent doesn't pay, bad things happen to the custodial parent AND the child), or go to jail. The purpose of the law is to make sure that child support *IS* a priority instead of an option, just like the rent, and the grocery bills.

I like this system, and I think it is about responsibility. There is NOTHING you have said in any of this thread that makes me feel sorry for your irresponsible, whiny, "everyone else needs to take care of my responsibilities" friend. He's a grown man, who has a child. Pay the damn bills, and quit complaining already. He's getting off cheap, in my opinion, and your comments about the mother of the child "buying a car with his money" and getting support from both HER family and HER new husband are OFFENSIVE in the extreme. Your guy can go to his family, and get money from his new wife, right? Or maybe he can learn that extremely valuable lesson about "whatever it takes to get the job done" -- you know, the one the rest of us responsible adults figured out a while ago!

And as for your logic problem -- you don't want to advocate taking money away from the mother, but you want the child support lowered -- I laugh at you most heartily. I repeat again, if he doesn't pay, I *WANT HIM* to go to jail. Check back with me in a couple of years before you approach me about changing the law; I want to see if it works first, because I know the old system did leave children homeless, and appears to have created attitudes (like yours) about the entitlements an adult should get, versus what a child is owed -- and I go back to those crazy concepts of FOOD, SHELTER, HEAT, CLOTHING, et al.
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