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michiganlady Donating Member (6 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Mar-19-08 11:08 AM
Response to Reply #92
94. Part of the problem
I'm not part of the problem, I can view this from an impartial position. I'm being real about what is going on.
Your situation is not necessarily everyone elses situation.

If a father is taking care of his children at least 50% of the time (lets not conveniently say "just because the child isn't at my house, because if the child is with you, we say it differently- "I am taking care of my child") feeding, clothing, or and whatever else those needs are, his contribution to the care of his child should not be called "a gift" unless you want to say your contributions are gifts as well.

We can't have it both ways, and always in favoring what works best for the custodial parent.

If you take my post as being directed at you then maybe you are too focused on your own situation to see the bigger picture. It's not just about you and your situation.

Most people don't pay for thier own insurance for instance, and some non custodial parents have coverage for their kids.

If you choose to be angry and see things one sided, telling people they are part of the problem for being straight about what is happening to MANY non-custodial parents then it is you that is part of the problem.

I'm about fairness and the state of michigan, and unfortunately many custodial parents are not. I have heard many custodial parents laugh about the situation. They find it funny that their ex is being forced to pay them money that they should not have to pay them.

Before you make judgements about someone that views the situation with wide open eyes, you should have read the part where I said

"My comments do no apply to deadbeats"

The state is really unfair to non custodial parents.. if you lost your job should you go to jail for not having the money to support your kids?

Should the court add arrearages for the time you were unemployed?? Should they take your drivers license from you so it's even harder for you to straighten the problem out?

You shouldn't be treated any different just because "the kids are in your house"
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