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idgiehkt Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Jul-30-07 03:25 AM
Response to Reply #18
30. if she's stuck
Edited on Mon Jul-30-07 03:25 AM by idgiehkt
and using you to stay stuck, there is an approach they use in al-anon that might work for you. Every time she starts with the complaining or whatever, answer it with "what are you gonna do about it?". Don't give her advice. Just ask that question, over and over. She might stop using you as a shoulder to cry on, and she might actually do something to change things...either way it might save your sanity.
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