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idgiehkt Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Feb-22-07 04:40 PM
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36. let me reframe it for you
Edited on Thu Feb-22-07 04:45 PM by idgiehkt
"By just telling a guy he is "Nice" you are ripping his balls of and stomping on them. All it does is make him question every aspect of who he is as a man."

Don't you know that a whole lot of women are attracted to assholes? There are many women out there who are attracted to men who are incapable of intimacy because they themselves are not ready for a romantic relationship or fear intimacy themselves. So they seek out men that are not healthy partners because on some level they know that nothing will really ever come of it; trust me, I speak from experience. It says NOTHING at all about you or your masculinity, in fact it is probably a positive. There is nothing wrong with being called a nice guy, it's just that some women are not ready for a 'nice guy' so they appear to prefer guys that are not so nice. You are giving the woman way, way, way too much power over your mental state. It's entirely possible that you are in fact, a nice guy, and that a nice guy is a really good thing to be, and that when it is the right time you will meet a woman who can actually accept a 'nice guy' into her life; I hope to be one of those women one day. Until then you might continue to hear this, and that is okay; it doesn't mean that you are ugly or undesirable in any way, it probably means she has a few more rounds to go with lotharios and playas before she's gotten it all out of her system. There isn't much you can do about that, but if you've dotted all your 'i's and crossed all your 't's, and have your game down, so to speak, stop assuming that it is her point of view that should have more credence.
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