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crim son Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Jan-28-07 04:36 PM
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27. Fighting a woman's mind for a woman's body...
What an interesting concept. It would be noble of a man not to play on a woman's insecurities but there aren't many urges stronger than the urge to reproduce, and the trick works. Only women can change how they respond to a man's approach.

I remember my mother telling me that the "right" man wouldn't care how you look or, better said, you would look beautiful to him because he loved you. I internalized the message but could not help noticing that when my hair was bright blonde, and I wore the "right" clothing and the "right" amount of makeup and had the "right" attitude my chances of gaining an opening were infinitely greater. Therefore I became confused, feeling myself to be a failure because I was not beautiful unless all the props were in place. I did it to myself, because my self-esteem was, and still is to some degree, tied to the male response to my physical being. It's crazy! because when men and women truly care for one another as friends or lovers, the look becomes irrelevant. Why is it so hard to bear this in mind? Why anyway do we try to gain the approval of men and/or women who choose to define us according to our outward appearance? Yet, think of it: human beings are attracted to objects too that we consider to be beautiful. There is a beautiful piece of sculpture and there is an ugly one and we wish to touch the beautiful one, naturally while we wish to put the ugly one in a guest room closet. We are both bound to recognize and bound to not overemphasize the fact that our face and figure will have am impact on how we are initially perceived & maybe not only initially.
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