Reply #58: Don't be fatalistic. But I otherwise like your response here.

[Deja Q]

Don't get quickly attached; let it build. I have that same, exact problem as you. And have positive thoughts - but keep them in check. Don't turn optimism into an expectation or anything else that isn't realistic. The reality is, love may never happen for us. We're not all destined to get that special kiss. (before anybody pisses on me, I've been told that too. As with the other comments, here on DU too.)

The difference is, don't let a want take over your life. It'll ruin you. It'd ruin anybody. And it nearly ruined me.

Expect the worst, but hope for the best. That way, if you are rejected, you won't become dejected and it's easier to get back up and try again. That's one thing I've learned the hard way, and am still learning...