Reply #40: As a master seducter, my advice is....

[Evoman]

Quit being a wuss. This girl is either a)playing you or b)hoping you will play her.

The fact of the matter is, in order to be succesful in the love game, you have to be able to play the game. And your "I'm on the verge of tears" stuff is EXACTLY the opposite of what you need to be.

It is a well-known fact that coquette behaviour (i.e being hot and loving one moment, and being cold or argumentative at another) is a sure way to get somebody to fall in love with you. I suspect that her behaviour, rather than cooling your feelings towards her, is actually part of the reason you love her so much. In the seductive phase of a romance, this is the behaviour that keeps somebody interested. Hell, when things get stale, this is the way to liven things up. She's playing you man, and you are falling for it.

In fact, one of the reasons she may be behaving this way is BECAUSE you are behaving like a love-sick puppy. I wouldn't doubt that she is trying to irk you, maybe in order to get you to stand up for yourself and act like the man you are supposed to be. In general, girls don't like wusses. They like confident, able men who don't let women walk all over them.

If you want to keep your relationship, this is what you need to do.

1)Get her off the pedestal. You are nobody fool. She is no better than you, and you have no need to worship her. You can, and will, get over her if you break up. In all likelihood, you can find better. Realize this, internalize this, and behave like this. Don't let one person cause you that much grief.

2)No more crying, no more whining. IF she argues with you, stand up for yourself. If she tells you your are being evil eating animals, tell her that just because of that, you are going to eat THREE animals. Everytime she brings it up, eat twice as much meat just to irk her back. Do not be a pushover. If you actually feel guilty, then cut out the meat. But if you don't, let her know that.

3)Play the game back. The fact that things were fine, and now they are rocky, leads me to believe that she is bored. If she is bored, you have to spice things up. Act the coquet yourself. Give her the hot and cold treatment. Flirt with other people to get her bothered. Stop saying I love you when she says it to you. Ignore her when she brings things up. Be more playful, and less serious. If you feel immoral doing this, just remember: ITS WHAT SHE WANTS. She wants some reaction from you.

4)If your going to end it anyways, might as well have some fun. Make her believe that you have other suitors. Leave for 2 or 3 hours at a time, and refuse to tell her where you have been. Just grin at her and tell her you "had things to do". This will drive her crazy...and will make her fall even deeper in love with you.


So cut out the wuss talk and act like a man.