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LynneSin Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Nov-13-03 10:19 AM
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32. I'm really worried about what you're doing.
I honestly don't know how us moving in together would change our relationship. But it's something I definately want to know - because if there is only one true love out there for someone - I believe that she's mine.

Because if she changes her mind about the living arrangements you could be stuck with a very expensive apartment.

You can be 'friends with benefits' without living together. I also perceive you to be a little to anxious for a relationship and I'm concerned that this one could blow up into your face.

You may be older, wiser and capable of handling this, but she was a 17 year old who was afraid of a commitment and then suddenly met bozo the bouncer who suddenly she decided to commit to a long term relationship. And Bozo the Bouncer sounds like a role model for Losers Incorporated.

I've been down this path before and believe me, I wish I could get back the time I wasted trying to make the relationship work. If she loves you and you love her, moving in together will only complicate matters - not make the relationship move forward. And don't kid yourself that your 'Friends with Benefits' will be any different from anyone else in the world who's been in that kind of relationship. Roommates work in only 2 kinds of situations: Rooming with your Friends or Rooming with your Partner - you try moving in with a combo of the 2 and you will be praying for the lease to end real quickly.

To make this relationship work, keep seperate living conditions and see where the path takes you. If you 2 were meant to live together you'll still feel the same way 6 months from now, but the difference is you'll be more assured of the relationship you have with her and HOPEFULLY she'll be out of the one she has with Karl. Even with Bush in the White House we will not see the end of the world just yet. Don't make a longterm financial plan just because you're still hot for an ex-girlfriend. Think with the brain between your ears, not the one between your legs. That's how most men and women get in trouble when they think with the wrong body parts!!!!
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