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IdaBriggs Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Feb-07-05 09:36 AM
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14. "Too professional to retaliate" sounds like a recipe for ---
"soon to be unemployed." I'm not trying to be mean here; part of each person's job is to be able to "play well with others." There are ALWAYS going to be people like the one you are describing in the workplace (hence the popularity of books like "Swim with the Sharks" and stuff like that. DOING your job isn't good enough; dealing with trouble makers is part of it, too. Your back stabber is using the techniques she is using because they are effective.

You have stated you are in a tech support environment. I am sure you are therefore familiar with the fact that some problems have multiple solutions, while "ignoring it" is rarely effective in the long term. Based on the situation you are describing, either a) she needs to change her behavior IMMEDIATELY, or b) one of the two is going to face career problems (as in, unemployment). If jobs are a dime a dozen where you are at, not a problem for him. If he likes regular paychecks, health insurance, and perhaps enjoys his work, then he needs to take her out (figuratively speaking, of course).

I've offered one nasty, but effective method for doing so down below. There are others (including the two of you sitting down with her privately for a discussion, after telling the supervisor you are going to do it, in a head's up way: "Don't want to have to get you involved, because we are all adults, but we're going to sit down with Troubles and see if we can get some of the inter-department conflict resolved without having to make more work for you. Perhaps a nice lunch will help build departmental unity."), while "pretend it isn't happening and then be an innocent victim" are kind of on the not-so-bright end of the scale, in my not-so-humble opinion, of course.

Good luck!
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