Reply #83: interesting that he has the reality, you have the fantasy

[amazona]

Having another girl masturbating you in your lap is cheating by my definition. It is not a fantasy. It is a real event. With a real flesh-and-blood woman.

It seems to me that your husband gets to go out and have actual physical contact with other women. While all you are getting is a fantasy in your head?

Now if you are actually able to go out and enjoy your "soulful connections" with physical contact with other men, then OK, the marriage is in balance. He has his something strange, and you have yours.

I have no problem with that.

But what I'm seeing here is too many women who are satisfied to allow their husband to have multiple physical contacts with others while they are getting nothing of equivalent value. An "open" marriage where only one person is allowed to cheat is not liberated or modern; it is exactly what the Victorians had. The men can buy whoever they can afford, and the wife sits home and gets a fraction of the action.

I personally would not be satisfied with that and would not tolerate that. If hubby is going to a strip club, fine, let me know the night, and I won't be sitting at home -- I'll be enjoying my own adventures. Fair is fair.

As far as men claiming they were visiting a strip club for business reasons, although it happens, progressives should be working to get this practice banned or least made socially unacceptable! Doing business in strip clubs is just another way to make sure that women executives and salespeople can never advance, because they can't provide the same freebie to their clientele. Ugh. Well, I suppose some women would be willing to attempt to transact business in a strip club to get ahead, but this is certainly my definition of a sexualized and hostile working environment where it would be very hard for the woman worker to be taken seriously.

Oh well, I've ranted long enough. Actually, I like nude bodies, I like porn, I have no problem with group scenes or whatever, but to my mind, when only one partner in a marriage is "married," something is wrong with the relationship.