Reply #16: She needs to grow up and you need to help her.

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By not having to have any responsibility, such as paying rent, you're only hurting her as well as allowing her to continue to hurt you.

The other thing I think that you should deal with is the thought that you'll someday need to depend on her. That's not what we have kids for and we never should think about putting that kind of burden or expectation on our kids. You're the parent, you raised her; you'll be fine without her. The more I think about that line, the more I think you might just be a little afraid to let her go. Kind of had that with my parents, but the best thing is to give her a little push. (Although were I disrespectful, especially at that age, I'd get more than a little push...)