Reply #3: Exactly...

[MiddleFingerMom]

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...I used to ride my bike to work and the halfway point was this
beautiful lush green cemetery (in the middle of Tucson desert).
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It was a good resting point (the sprinklers misting the air and
cooling down an already oppressive heat at 7 AM). It was beautiful,
restful, and quiet.
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It didn't make me think of death, but it WAS a good place to think...
to ponder with my mind relatively uncluttered.
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There's a campground I used to go to near Bisbee that rents vintage
1940's Airstream-like trailers for the night with an old cemetery
nearby that catered to the copper miners. It was a cool place to
walk around and think of what their lives must have been like during
the different eras represented by the headstones.
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It wouldn't hoit to tell your Mom that you don't NEED a cemetery
to visit her -- that she will always be right there with you in
your mind and in your heart. MiddleFingerMomMom is buried "somewhere"
back East. Doesn't MATTER where -- she is with me as I related in
the previous sentence.
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That statement would be a simple kindness that would really cost
you nothing.
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Kinder than "I could find it if I NEEDED to" to someone who may
understandably be more concerned about her death and/or legacy
than you may be.
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Just a thought.
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