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Nikia Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Dec-06-03 04:36 PM
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23. My make up issue at work
Maybe this is a little off topic, but certainly related. I initially did not wear make up at work. I did that because I was told that I was working in a man's industry and must be careful not to appear like a sex object if I were to be taken seriously. The company that I work for is more sexist that any other workplace that I encountered and I saw harassment as well. I did not continued not to wear make up. One day, a female coworker did my make up to see if it would help my confience. She said that I should not be afriad to assert my womanhood in a male dominated environment. It was a high anxiety day as everyone looked differently. One woman said that I looked like "a fancy secretary" where many guys looked at me like they wanted me. I discussed the experience with my anxiety support group who said I should not be afraid of that. I wore it again. A male friend coworker then told me that if I want to be taken seriously that I shouldn't draw attention to my "differene" by wearing make up. I discussed it with my father who agreed and said that female professional women should not be "superficially girly". Later, after having to wear glasses because of tearing my contacts, I found that I liked having color around my eyes. I talked to my former female boss who said that if I liked how it made me look that I should not be afraid to wear make up. Now, I wear make up although toned down from the look that my female coworker gave me. Although, some of the guys stare at me, perhaps they would have anyway. I don't think that I am really taken any less seriously. Does anyoone else have that problem?
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