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stanwyck Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Dec-10-05 09:17 AM
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267. You're over-reacting
I specifically said I worry for some home-schoolers. My daughter works for social services. There is an element, clearly not you, of religiously fundamentalist parents who demand ultimate control over their children. The children are possessions. You no doubt encountered this form of parenting in the extreme case of Andrea Yates. When problems exist within the household, there are no safety nets for the children. No teachers. No friends. No neighbors allowed access to the household. The home has become a carefully guarded camp. Until something goes horribly wrong and social services has to become involved. O the police.
You don't need journals to document this. You just need to read the newspapers.
I'm guessing that my experiences in public schools were much more positive than yours. You seem to bear quite a bit of resentment toward teachers and formal education. And, no doubt, that is why you don't want your child to experience what you did.
I respect your decision. Though it's difficult for me to understand.
The majority of my teachers (with only a couple of burn outs) were motivated, engaging people who introduced me to the sciences, literature, math, foreign languages, geography, social sciences, history, and political science. They were creative and inspiring.
In addition, I have wonderful memories of playing field hockey, basketball, volleyball, swimming, and running track with my classmates. I was a cheerleader and member of the band. I was in student council and on the yearbook staff. I was part of a team. I learned how to work with my friends to accomplish a goal.
Plus, there was the natural progression of interaction with the opposite sex. We were in classrooms together from first grade through college graduation. This kind of interaction is invaluable. You work through your fears, crushes, and learn what you truly value.
You might discount this. But what about your child? You've made the decision all of these experiences are off limits. This was your decision, right? Not his/hers. You have decided that all of these activities are negligible. The excitement before homecoming. The speeches from students running for office. The class trips to museums. The team projects.
You were unhappy. So, you've decided that your child would be, too.
Not all of us had negative experiences with our education. Many of us thrived and have life long friends from those days. Many of us look back and are grateful to our teachers who worked so hard and shared so much.
Our fear is that the home-schooled child will miss so much that we found rewarding and fulfilling.
If you had our perspective of an enriching school background, you would have more respect for our beliefs.
But you've made your decision and your concern is justifying that to us. And to yourself.
Just know that many of us had school experiences totally contrary to your views. That is the gulf between us.

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