Reply #165: I love you both Cally & Kahuna

[Desertrose]

:hug:

It seems so odd that we are having these discussions.....ok, bitch is not the nicest of words...and I am real sorry a lot of women here take it personally...but as Cally said, there are a lot of words that are offensive to many here on the boards...so where does this end? IMHO we do not want to go down this road cause its not gonna lead us to a good place.

If things get too much or too offensive for people to tolerate, then why stick around? If I keep coming back to a place or person that treats me in a way I find disrespectful, then what does that say about me??

Life isn't always the way we want it, but you will never be able to control it from the outside in- by attempting to control what others say or do. You can only deal with what goes on in side you...you do not have to accept that word as fitting or describing you.....you are what you think you are.....if you want to play a victim as in feeling the recipient of every derogatory comment then that is your choice. I simply have other things I'd rather do with my time.

I do not mean this as a put down or insult to those who feel hurt by the choice of words that some use...so I hope you won't flame me and make this an "us or them" battle. I don't like a lot of terms but I don't let those terms define or insult or hurt me. You have to realize it says a lot more about the person who chooses to use that word than it does about the person it is said about.

Anyhow.... :shrug:

Peace
DR