Reply #2: I don't know what, if any, issues you have but

[Sugarbleus]

feelings can certainly reverse when one loses some living thing that is extremely close to them. It's called love and empathy.

I couldn't shed a tear for 20 years. I looked at death and mayhem and it didn't sink in much. I was "FROZEN" emotionally--just plain numb.

At some point, life got sooooooooooooo hard for me that my emotions broke through; first with anger, then the tears came and THEN I began to look around at others and KNOW what they were going through..I began to feel again. I don't show empathy nor cry at every turn, but I can really truely FEEL for many more people than before. Soon, I began to love animals; then my stray cat was smashed by some ahole mad driver..I wept..DEEPLY. Then a close relative that we were so counting on for our future passed away from a long bought with Leukemia. I NEVER FELT SO MUCH SORROW IN ALL MY LIFE...I didn't even know what sorrow was. My life became so empty, my future so dim without this relative. I miss him still.

My daughter was in Gulf War I..THAT freaked me out to no end..I couldn't eat or sleep or turn the TV off. She made it back but I have a sincere empathy with other families who have soldiers shaking in their boots in a far away land. I KNOW what they feel, I can rejoice with them when things go well, I can weep with them when they lose.

Because of HARDSHIP, I learned about life. I do things that would otherwise freak me out--like go to visit the sick and the homeless and other people in distress--because no man is an island........we need each other. I don't cry at every single thing; I'm not that sensitive but I can FEEL what it's like to be alive--in good times and bad times. For that I thank my lucky stars! Peace~