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VarryOn

(2,343 posts)
8. I have limited perspective on your issue...
Thu Jun 23, 2022, 09:48 PM
Jun 2022

But I can understand a little from his perspective.

For the last 2-3 years, I've experienced gaps in my short term memory. It sucks waking up the next morning not remembering the evening before. I've even read some of my posts here with no recollection. It is especially disappointing when it's out of character.

Early on-set dementia runs in my family. If your hubby is like me, he desperately tries to minimize his problem. He's aware his needle is skipping. He's learning not to talk about last night or the last episode of our favorite Netflix show. And he's secretly rewatching "our last show" so he can be up-to-date and able not to ask the dumb question during the new episode.

I'd just recommend not to call him out on his gaps. I know it doesn't necessarily help you...but, it helps him.

I'm sorry for your situation.

You need help of course and I have no idea how to get it, hopefully someone does. Eliot Rosewater Jun 2022 #1
There are multiple reasons for short-term memory loss Murphyb849 Jun 2022 #2
Not knowing any more about you and your situation than I read in this post... COL Mustard Jun 2022 #3
First and foremost: you are not a horrible wife Raven123 Jun 2022 #4
♥️ a kennedy Jun 2022 #12
Contact your doctor's office deRien Jun 2022 #5
♥️ a kennedy Jun 2022 #13
Please call your local Agency for Aging ASAP JoeOtterbein Jun 2022 #6
I am so, so sorry. Phoenix61 Jun 2022 #7
I have limited perspective on your issue... VarryOn Jun 2022 #8
This is the best advice. Trueblue Texan Jun 2022 #21
We miss one thing our loved ones are going through ... EmmaLee E Oct 2023 #27
Yes, HUGS HELP is the best advice. EmmaLee E Jan 30 #28
I'm so sorry you're going through this and you're not a bad wife. badhair77 Jun 2022 #9
I know your pain too well Moostache Jun 2022 #10
♥️ a kennedy Jun 2022 #15
I'm so sorry. Can you postpone the knee surgery? I ask spooky3 Jun 2022 #11
I am so sorry. I don't know how to help but you can't beat yourself up - you are not being a bad LoisB Jun 2022 #14
A change of diet and maybe medication Tetrachloride Jun 2022 #16
Please, please don't blame yourself Easterncedar Jun 2022 #17
Sending a big hug, and some comments MyMission Jun 2022 #18
I'm so glad you spoke of the stress caregivers endure. Trueblue Texan Jun 2022 #22
It's not his fault. It's not your fault either. Beastly Boy Jun 2022 #19
My Dad had dementia.... thecrow Jun 2022 #20
I just read this topic again.....and this really stood out to me.... a kennedy Jul 2022 #25
You sound like me. AmBlue Jun 2022 #23
A lot of what you describes sounds very familiar CountAllVotes Jul 2022 #24
Thank you. ♥️ a kennedy Jul 2022 #26
I really wish I had some advice for you... Hugin Mar 20 #29
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