It's wrong. We are the only ones who seem to be living in fear of people harassing our kids, keying our cars, firing us, or shunning us.
I would have a conversation with him, and discuss why he'd feel uncomfortable saying who he prefers. If he says it's because people will be upset with him or harass him, that is a great time to discuss having a conviction about something, and how people in the Civil Rights movement fought because people wanted them to be quiet.. and sit at the back of the bus. Obviously that school is NOT teaching that stuff, but parents can.
My concern is that he doesn't want to say anything ,because he fears retaliation. So even if he chooses not to reveal his preference, the conversation must happen with him either way. I don't understand teachers putting kids in this position in grade school. They only parrot what they hear at home at that age, anyway.. and what teachers or church staff tells them. Tell any kid that someone is a "baby killer" that want's to "kill off Grandma" and that kid will be against that person.
Please don't miss a teachable moment, and the chance for Democrats to stop living in fear of bullies.
Okay... I've got to ask.. WHY is your son in that school?? You pay money for that kind of narrow minded bullshit??? I'd rank them out so fast and put my kid in public school (which is where all of my kids went and were quite happy and successful.)