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Bereavement

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SleeplessinSoCal

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Fri Feb 16, 2024, 12:11 AM Feb 16

My mom died today. [View all]

We drove down to be with her for her last 90 minutes. All we could do was stroke her hair.

She made it to 100 and one month exactly. We had a family party on Saturday despite her being jaundiced and in some pain, she really wanted us to celebrate with her.. Her health deteriorated quickly the past few months. They discovered a tumor in her Liver 2 weeks ago. She had gallbladder issues in September. Falls led to a fractured foot. And finally this week a 2nd mini stroke.

My youngest brother has been her caregiver. I feel for him. He tries to find humor in everything. This past week was hard on him and my sister, who has been staying with them. All five of her kids (I'm the oldest) were there. I finally understand what is meant by person passes peacefully with their family around them. Morphine drops made that possible. We were there for her last breath.

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My mom died today. [View all] SleeplessinSoCal Feb 16 OP
Thank you for the story. My condolences to you and your family Tetrachloride Feb 16 #1
She made many friends where she lived the last 25 years SleeplessinSoCal Feb 16 #43
Sounds like you and your family gave her a gentle passage. calimary Feb 16 #2
There was a hospice nurse who came to clean her. SleeplessinSoCal Feb 16 #14
I'm so sorry to hear of her passing. forgotmylogin Feb 16 #21
Hospice care was a Godsend. SleeplessinSoCal Feb 16 #44
... Drum Feb 16 #3
Yes, thank you for envisioning cilla4progress Feb 16 #4
I am so sorry, but it sounds like you all did the right thing. Rhiannon12866 Feb 16 #5
Each person is different CANADIANBEAVER69 Feb 16 #6
Many hugs to you Sleepless. My mother passed in similar fashion almost 10 years ago. I alwaysinasnit Feb 16 #7
Thank you. SleeplessinSoCal Feb 16 #18
Holding you znd your family in love and light. niyad Feb 16 #8
So very very sorry, Sleepless. diva77 Feb 16 #9
sorry for your loss, helping her pass with little pain is hard but honorable Shellback Squid Feb 16 #10
You were lucky to have her that long. OAITW r.2.0 Feb 16 #11
There is something I learned called fish out of water breathing SleeplessinSoCal Feb 16 #22
Seen it more than a few times. OAITW r.2.0 Feb 16 #26
((Sleepless)) blm Feb 16 #12
My condolences to you and your family. 🌺 Deuxcents Feb 16 #13
Sincere condolences Picaro Feb 16 #15
Strangely, yes. I guess. SleeplessinSoCal Feb 16 #47
I'm so sorry. Nt spooky3 Feb 16 #16
Blessings and peace PlutosHeart Feb 16 #17
I'm so sorry for your loss. Beacool Feb 16 #19
Thank you. SleeplessinSoCal Feb 16 #46
Holding you in my heart. It's a tough loss. TygrBright Feb 16 #20
Sorry for your loss too. SleeplessinSoCal Feb 16 #24
Our Moms probably would have been friends. I hope someone does that for me some day. n/t TygrBright Feb 16 #58
My grandmother almost made it to 104 BigmanPigman Feb 16 #23
Wow! SleeplessinSoCal Feb 16 #28
I'm so sorry for your loss. yardwork Feb 16 #25
Condolences and a sharing of memories OldSWODog Feb 16 #27
I'm very pleased my sharing helped you. SleeplessinSoCal Feb 16 #29
loss OldSWODog Feb 16 #32
My condolences to you.... DemocraticPatriot Feb 16 #30
just wrote a long reply which I lost. SleeplessinSoCal Feb 16 #89
I'm so sorry. Ocelot II Feb 16 #31
I am so sorry for the loss of your mom. Dem2theMax Feb 16 #33
Im so sorry for your loss vercetti2021 Feb 16 #34
I'm so sorry for your loss. cate94 Feb 16 #35
I'm very sorry for your loss dlk Feb 16 #36
Bless your mom. Bless you, your youngest brother (trooper and giver), your sister, and all family. keopeli Feb 16 #37
My heart and my thoughts to you and yours. herding cats Feb 16 #38
I am so very sorry for the loss of your Mother.💔 lucca18 Feb 16 #39
My heart is with you TruthAlwaysWins Feb 16 #41
My condolences to you and your family. riverbendviewgal Feb 16 #40
Condolences to you and you family. 2naSalit Feb 16 #42
I'm so sorry stage left Feb 16 #45
You all dif everything right...sounds like she was a good mom!!! Karadeniz Feb 16 #48
So sorry for your loss. Lonestarblue Feb 16 #49
Condolences Sleepless gademocrat7 Feb 16 #50
I'm so sorry you lost your lovely mother. AllyCat Feb 16 #51
I'm so sorry. ❤️ underpants Feb 16 #52
Sorry for your loss. MOMFUDSKI Feb 16 #53
May you and your family mercuryblues Feb 16 #54
I'm so sorry for your loss. ms liberty Feb 16 #55
My sincere condolences on your loss. ProudMNDemocrat Feb 16 #56
Deepest sympathy to you and your family. sinkingfeeling Feb 16 #57
Sorry for you and your families loss. Condolences to you all. marked50 Feb 16 #59
Hugs XanaDUer2 Feb 16 #60
My condolences. babylonsister Feb 16 #61
That is exactly what I did. SleeplessinSoCal Feb 16 #62
I'm very sorry for your loss. So glad you were there with beloved family. onecaliberal Feb 16 #63
Sending my sympathy. pandr32 Feb 16 #64
I'm sorry for your loss. Bluethroughu Feb 16 #65
So sorry for your loss Saoirse9 Feb 16 #66
I am so very sorry for your loss Wicked Blue Feb 16 #67
God bless you Demnh2fl Feb 16 #68
Sending you and your family hugs. MLAA Feb 16 #69
Yup. SleeplessinSoCal Feb 16 #71
I am so sorry GAJMac Feb 16 #70
You all have been so wonderful to me and my family. SleeplessinSoCal Feb 16 #72
Beautiful photos. Sorry for your losing her. ancianita Feb 16 #73
Aww, she was just gorgeous!! Quakerfriend Feb 16 #76
Absolutely! SleeplessinSoCal Feb 16 #83
beautiful. So sorry for your loss. Truly a beautiful person in "the age." You should document her "travels". Evolve Dammit Feb 16 #79
I am so sorry. crickets Feb 16 #74
I'm so sorry for your loss. mountain grammy Feb 16 #75
So sorry. A parent's passing stirs up emotions never before felt. Stay well and cherish what you had. twodogsbarking Feb 16 #77
Condolences. It's tough. paleotn Feb 16 #78
I'm so sorry for your loss. badhair77 Feb 16 #80
I'm so sorry for your loss. mia Feb 16 #81
I am so sorry for your loss. Grumpy Old Guy Feb 16 #82
So very sorry for your loss. AltairIV Feb 16 #84
So sorry for your loss. sheshe2 Feb 16 #85
May peace be upon you and your entire family...... KY_EnviroGuy Feb 16 #86
It is such a privilege to be with a loved one when they pass away. 1WorldHope Feb 16 #87
Rest in peace shenmue Feb 16 #88
Peace to you and your family lonely bird Feb 17 #90
So sorry. SleeplessinSoCal Feb 17 #92
I'm so sorry for your loss. area51 Feb 17 #91
The glamor shots... SleeplessinSoCal Feb 17 #93
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