Please universe - help me have a better relationship with my coworker...

[SheilaT]

14. Several years ago I had a coworker I was having trouble

getting along with. She was, in my experience with her, prickly and oversensitive, rude and judgmental. I was going crazy and then I decided to knit her a scarf for Christmas, since I knew there was some kind of present exchange in that small office. I spent time deciding what color and kind of yarn to buy, and then just did a simple knit stitch scarf.

A couple of days before Christmas itself I asked her exactly how things worked at that office, and she explained how they did it. "And then you and I exchange gifts, right?" I asked. "No. You and I don't exchange gifts," she said rather sharply.

So I never gave her the scarf, but the process of knitting it helped enormously. I cannot make something for someone and put hate or even dislike into it. When I'm making something with a particular person in mind, I can only put in good thoughts and positive energy. Our relationship improved, at least in my perspective, but it was getting to be time to make another scarf for her around the time I left the job anyway.