When I got married my fiancé and I attended an Engaged Encounter session the Catholics put on for people getting married. Wed been told it was pretty good so signed up for a weekend retreat. She was a non church goer and we had a simple ceremony on an island that was served by a minister who had a pilots license who flew in. I dont remember what denomination he was. But what I remember was that the majority of couples were only there so they could have their wedding in a local old Catholic Church that was very old and very fancy. So many people want their ceremony held in a beautiful location and to use the church you had to attend the Engaged Encounter, the men at least were just going thru the motions. I liked the priest who put it on. I remember birth control came up and he said Well the churchs stance was against it, but if having a baby at this time of your life would be a disaster, use birth control. That kind of thing was pretty standard with catholic priests back then, they didnt mindlessly preach the party line.