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In reply to the discussion: Seeking Advice re My Sister [View all]catrose
(5,051 posts)15. My mother was a bipolar alcoholic; childhood was beyond horrible,
and I've never learned to deal with mental illness besides getting as far away as possible, even though not everyone with that diagnosis is physically abusive. But why wait around to find out. I hope your niece can cut loose and you too, if you feel that's best for you--because as you say, you aren't qualified to help her.
There's a line in one of the AA Big Book stories from one of the women: "A terrible thing happened to me. I ran out of people." Once NOBODY was putting up with her rampages any longer, she took steps to clean up her life.
I don't know if the same would apply to mental illness, but I think of that line when people say that they're the last one.
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You are doing fine. You tried your best to help, but if your help is rejected,
marylandblue
Jul 2019
#3
Very sad. You can try to make the issue about medical health, not mental. You can try to get your
emmaverybo
Jul 2019
#7
Profound sympathy to you...and everyone suffering from her behavior. Is it within your
Karadeniz
Jul 2019
#13
Maybe I'm a terrible person but I would let her know that unfortunately a lot is going on right now
lunasun
Jul 2019
#14
You Can Love Your Sister in a Healthy Way and Still Set Appropriate Boundaries to Protect Yourself
dlk
Jul 2019
#16
Unfortunately, medication doesn't always work, but it usually does especially for psychosis.
Tobin S.
Jul 2019
#32
I have an oldest daughter who mirrors (or almost mirrors) your sister. She has caused so much grief
demosincebirth
Jul 2019
#34