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catrose

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15. My mother was a bipolar alcoholic; childhood was beyond horrible,
Sun Jul 7, 2019, 08:05 PM
Jul 2019

and I've never learned to deal with mental illness besides getting as far away as possible, even though not everyone with that diagnosis is physically abusive. But why wait around to find out. I hope your niece can cut loose and you too, if you feel that's best for you--because as you say, you aren't qualified to help her.

There's a line in one of the AA Big Book stories from one of the women: "A terrible thing happened to me. I ran out of people." Once NOBODY was putting up with her rampages any longer, she took steps to clean up her life.

I don't know if the same would apply to mental illness, but I think of that line when people say that they're the last one.

Seeking Advice re My Sister [View all] utopian Jul 2019 OP
At some point you have to protect yourself from toxic people. redstateblues Jul 2019 #1
Sadly, that's pretty much where I've landed utopian Jul 2019 #2
You are doing fine. You tried your best to help, but if your help is rejected, marylandblue Jul 2019 #3
Yes, we're very close and pretty much on the same page utopian Jul 2019 #5
Ok, that's good. Then you just need to take back your power of choice. marylandblue Jul 2019 #8
I *really* wish I had advice to offer. I really do. eppur_se_muova Jul 2019 #4
Yes, that does sound familiar utopian Jul 2019 #6
My mother was a bipolar alcoholic; childhood was beyond horrible, catrose Jul 2019 #15
Thanks. I think you're right. utopian Jul 2019 #17
Very sad. You can try to make the issue about medical health, not mental. You can try to get your emmaverybo Jul 2019 #7
Good advice. Thanks. utopian Jul 2019 #9
that's some good advice. mopinko Jul 2019 #12
I have no advise proud patriot Jul 2019 #10
When I've sought Help proud patriot Jul 2019 #11
Profound sympathy to you...and everyone suffering from her behavior. Is it within your Karadeniz Jul 2019 #13
Maybe I'm a terrible person but I would let her know that unfortunately a lot is going on right now lunasun Jul 2019 #14
You Can Love Your Sister in a Healthy Way and Still Set Appropriate Boundaries to Protect Yourself dlk Jul 2019 #16
Thanks for your kind words utopian Jul 2019 #18
My Heart Goes Out to You-I Can Relate to Your Challenges dlk Jul 2019 #19
Sounds as if you've decided CDerekGo Jul 2019 #20
I made it, and I'm sticking to it utopian Jul 2019 #22
you cannot allow her to continue to abuse you Skittles Jul 2019 #21
Lord knows I've tried utopian Jul 2019 #23
well hopefully it will make her aware and she will try to modify her behavior Skittles Jul 2019 #24
Your sister needs anti-psychotic medication. Tobin S. Jul 2019 #25
You get no argument from me. utopian Jul 2019 #26
10-4 Tobin S. Jul 2019 #27
I am so happy for you. It is great that you made the step to get help. AJT Jul 2019 #28
Thank you. Tobin S. Jul 2019 #29
My brother is going through a horrible situation with his oldest son. AJT Jul 2019 #30
Unfortunately, medication doesn't always work, but it usually does especially for psychosis. Tobin S. Jul 2019 #32
They weren't sure what else to do, they didn't want him on the streets. AJT Jul 2019 #33
I'll be honest CDerekGo Jul 2019 #31
I have an oldest daughter who mirrors (or almost mirrors) your sister. She has caused so much grief demosincebirth Jul 2019 #34
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