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TigressDem

(5,125 posts)
32. They say insanity is hereditary... you get it from your kids.
Mon Jul 12, 2021, 08:09 AM
Jul 2021

That is an exaggeration and somewhat of a cop out, but.....

The love we invest and when we see it turn out like this... just boggles the mind and cranks on the heart.

I've been telling him, I don't want to talk to you about guns. I did not raise you to use them and even though I am fine with you hunting and using them for self defense, I just don't want to hear (other applications that border on crazy) any more about them at all. You know how I feel and we just have to agree to disagree.

So we actually have ratcheted down those conversations. He says he's not looking for reasons to go use his gun... but he did enjoy shooting squirrels that were attacking his lumber business at one point. Apparently red squirrels are really pests in that situation.

My segue from him not looking for reasons to use his gun became... Yeah, you could always find some squirrels to shoot if you got really bored. It defuses the conversation.

Dang, I feel like I'm in a mine field, constantly defusing the conversational bombs around me trying to get out of this in one piece.

I'm so sorry you are going through this leftieNanner Jul 2021 #1
Thank you. TigressDem Jul 2021 #6
Do it and don't feel guilty about it. Prof. Toru Tanaka Jul 2021 #10
Thanks TigressDem Jul 2021 #13
Great advice MOMFUDSKI Jul 2021 #18
They say insanity is hereditary... you get it from your kids. TigressDem Jul 2021 #32
Sounds awful XanaDUer2 Jul 2021 #2
It is. TigressDem Jul 2021 #5
I'm a believer of not keeping toxic relatives in my life XanaDUer2 Jul 2021 #7
I am close to putting down some serious boundries. TigressDem Jul 2021 #9
What sucks is they can hold your emotions hostage by using their children as pawns. Prof. Toru Tanaka Jul 2021 #11
True. nt TigressDem Jul 2021 #14
K&R wryter2000 Jul 2021 #3
Thanks. TigressDem Jul 2021 #4
My parents used to joke about "Moving and leaving no forwarding address for us kids" TigressDem Jul 2021 #8
does NOT happen in all families Skittles Jul 2021 #17
Yeah, my son has a good friend whose family is horrible. TigressDem Jul 2021 #30
My mom always told us kids MOMFUDSKI Jul 2021 #19
He's been getting personal responsibility lessons since age 2. TigressDem Jul 2021 #33
I remember sitting near my uncle one Thanksgiving and hearing him say that if they Maraya1969 Jul 2021 #23
Thanks. TigressDem Jul 2021 #29
just sending huggggggs. It is a very unhappy and stressful situation. I agree, sell and get niyad Jul 2021 #12
hugggggs appreciated. TigressDem Jul 2021 #15
This message was self-deleted by its author Skittles Jul 2021 #16
I'm so sorry you're going through this. zuul Jul 2021 #20
Thank you. TigressDem Jul 2021 #27
Sorry to hear this. multigraincracker Jul 2021 #21
Yeah, I learned to hang up the phone when people get abusive. TigressDem Jul 2021 #28
I've packed up and moved multigraincracker Jul 2021 #31
It's a thought. TigressDem Jul 2021 #34
Your son needs to understand his wife's sobriety is on his wife and no one else questionseverything Jul 2021 #22
Yeah, his kind of "support" of her sobriety wouldn't pass 12 Step smell test. TigressDem Jul 2021 #26
Your son was screaming at you? left-of-center2012 Jul 2021 #24
Yeah, I did hang up the phone. TigressDem Jul 2021 #25
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