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sarge43

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12. You've never been through this, have you?

Reply to a2liberal (Reply #2)

Fri Feb 8, 2013, 11:17 AM

Feb 2013

You've never had to watch a loved one who has the cognition and mobility of a potted plant die by inches. Knowing today is the best day s/he will have; tomorrow will be worse. Meanwhile the 'care' s/he is getting covers the basic legal requirements; it can not save their life. No probability of success.

Because they didn't have DNRs, my father, mother and brother died in this manner. If he survives me, I will not put my husband through this. If for no other reason than he had to go through this with his mother.

You don't want to debate this, understand. You probably can't honestly do so, but don't get self righteous with people who been through this hell.

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Doctors die differently than their patients [View all] modrepub Feb 2013 OP

Not just doctors newfie11 Feb 2013 #1

It seems the more you know about life- (and suffering-) prolonging procedures... trotsky Feb 2013 #3

I've had this talk with many medical professionals. polly7 Feb 2013 #7

ugh a2liberal Feb 2013 #2

Not wanting to debate you here, but... trotsky Feb 2013 #4

Um, no. eggplant Feb 2013 #5

Quality of Life and end of life spiritual considerations take priority over futile KurtNYC Feb 2013 #10

OR, it could also mean we need to begin thinking about legalizing voluntary euthanasia BlueCaliDem Feb 2013 #11

You've never been through this, have you? sarge43 Feb 2013 #12

Brings back the Terri Schiavo case. maddiemom Feb 2013 #14

It sure does. sarge43 Feb 2013 #15

I was able to make my mother DNR Warpy Feb 2013 #17

"I wanted them to live forever, sarge43 Feb 2013 #18

I know that as a nurse, too. Warpy Feb 2013 #20

Yep, that's pretty much it in a nutshell. NorthCarolina Feb 2013 #13

Thank you. a2liberal Feb 2013 #22

Not true. cbayer Feb 2013 #19

I also agree with you CrawlingChaos Feb 2013 #23

A good friend is an ER doctor and he told that in 80% + of the cases bringing someone back ... Botany Feb 2013 #6

Another view ColumbusLib Feb 2013 #8

It depends on the circumstances Bibliovore Feb 2013 #9

Nurses tend to be the same way Warpy Feb 2013 #16

doctors know how much suffering is driven for profit only Skittles Feb 2013 #21

Conversely, my father's a retired physician. no_hypocrisy Feb 2013 #24

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