I'm having a problem about Alzheimer's / wife, maybe me now

[MADem]

1. Go see a lawyer and get everything sorted out while you still have your marbles.

Decisions need to be made about when things get sold, how stuff is distributed, and where you want to wind up as a patient (maybe with your wife?). A lawyer can give you solid advice, for your state, in complete confidence. See a good lawyer--one with a decent reputation for good, solid work.

They'll spend most of your money on taking care of you, but if there's any left over, you can designate a charity that is meaningful to you, like say, a no-kill animal shelter or eradication of some disease--alzheimer's might be a good pick.

Are you feeling ready to go to an assisted living facility? Is there a way you could get a place near your wife so you can visit her, or is she well enough that you could live together in an apartment in an assisted living complex?

Good luck to you--this is a time of transition for you and that is always stressful. Talk it out with a lawyer and get a handle on the financial end, first. Then figure out where your heart is. Take it from there.

Best of luck to you.