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kdmorris

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4. I remember those days
Tue Jul 3, 2012, 11:36 AM
Jul 2012

19 years later... the oh-so-important reasons to keep it hidden have faded from my memory. But I remember the shame...the feeling that I deserved it, somehow...the trying to find a reason for the black eyes, bruises on my arms so that no one would know...For a long time after his arrest (3 years in jail) and the eventual divorce - I wanted an apology from him. But he never gave me one and to this day says that he "barely slapped me maybe one time". He does not see my 3 daughters (has not seen them since 1996) - my daughters call my husband "Dad" and love him as their father. Two of them don't remember him at all.

I try to get through to women in this situation now. He won't change. He's not sorry. And it will happen again.

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Very powerful PSA about Domestic Violence [View all] La Lioness Priyanka Jul 2012 OP
That is chilling. Vanje Jul 2012 #1
yes, it is chilling and powerful La Lioness Priyanka Jul 2012 #2
Same here. Starry Messenger Jul 2012 #6
Excellent, Priyanka -- thanks for posting obamanut2012 Jul 2012 #3
I remember those days kdmorris Jul 2012 #4
... La Lioness Priyanka Jul 2012 #5
It leaves permanent scars kdmorris Jul 2012 #8
I'm so sorry that happened to you, and I admire you for surviving for you and your children. yardwork Jul 2012 #7
At one point in my life, I had to let go of the rage/hatred kdmorris Jul 2012 #9
That is very powerful. Thank you for telling us about that. yardwork Jul 2012 #10
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