You were definately not stupid. You are right about the debate and if you did follow through maybe things would have been different.
One person can make a difference. I understand this being a gay woman.
I fell in love with a woman in latin country and her three children. I am Australian. I have changed my whole life for them
to try to take them out of poverty, the religious issues in some countries can be hard, i know.
I have been away for sometime now, working in my native country to try to get money together.
There is not a day goes by that i do not cry through pure frustration over money and the fact that i cannot legally live with them as yet.
The strange thing in some countries if you have the money everything is acceptable???